The Rainbow Lounge - LGBT Chit Chat

[CampbellzSoup]

Is it weird that I feel super uncomfortable at gay clubs...?

 

[James L-P]

Ok either I'm just IT illiterate or can't find the right buttons...how do you avatar your profile on here...I feel like I'm stuck in the Myspace era on here!

 

[CampbellzSoup]

I think you need at least 10 posts to then edit your profile.

 

[wilkeliza]

I think you need at least 10 posts to then edit your profile.

You are correct.

 

[wilkeliza]

Is it weird that I feel super uncomfortable at gay clubs...?

Nothing weird at all. I know a lot of people who are uncomfortable at them and feel kind of judged if they don't fit the "scene" of that club.

 

[CampbellzSoup]

No I just feel like I'm too old for that nonsense (30) - I don't like being touched and groped and when you show people your ring it shockingly means nothing!

It is a bit of a confidence boost! However, when I'm there I keep thinking man I wish I was home doing something watching tv or playing video games...

Since we're just taking crap I've been doing this cross fit stuff and my god my body is so sore...

 

[CampbellzSoup]

Also just for fun does anyone have Grindr? I had it what...5 years ago? However! I never hooked up with anyone from it (I promise!) I used it to mostly talk to people as I was lonely....however not suprisingly most conversations end up with turkey legs being sent to you...

Also this is kinda embarrassing but I actually met my future husband on Grindr after I denied going on a date with him like 4 times he wouldn't leave me alone so the caviet of meeting him was so then he'd leave me alone...

...he still hasn't

 

[GaryDis]

In my day, we didn't have Grindr. We had Usenet. And soc.motss. I may still have a soc.motss tee shirt somewhere.

I can't remember the name of the Disney group back then. Maybe rec.arts.disney or some such thing.

 

[CampbellzSoup]

What exactly did you guys do before technology as readily accessible to find others...man that must have been so hard to find someone right?

 

[Jonas_Swe]

What exactly did you guys do before technology as readily accessible to find others...man that must have been so hard to find someone right?

Yeah, I am relatively young (irl - but aincent in gay years)... 41yrs to be exact.

When I came out internet was nothing to speak of here yet. It was before every other person even had a dial up connection, and most bigger companies only had begun with internal networks, but no external (aka internet access). So I'd safely say that it was before the internet in my case.

I was fortunate to live within a comfortable driving distance to our capital (Stockholm), so I went there as often as I could. Hung out at the LGBT café and in the weekends sneaked in to the pub events.

 

[manakin]

Is it weird that I feel super uncomfortable at gay clubs...?

Actually I never go to gay clubs, I prefer much more to join friends in some quieter places
I'm not kinda the guy who likes to go in super crowded spaces with tons of guys who "study" you from head to feet....but just my opinion

 

[Princesca]

No I just feel like I'm too old for that nonsense (30) - I don't like being touched and groped and when you show people your ring it shockingly means nothing!

It is a bit of a confidence boost! However, when I'm there I keep thinking man I wish I was home doing something watching tv or playing video games...

Boy do I know that feels. I am so not a club person. I get thinking about staying up til 11, even, and then I'm like... nah. Also I tend to not like crowds or really loud environments, and I am too cheap to spend too much money on booze at a bar, especially because I work in the distilled spirits industry and have liquor coming out my ears.

I can't remember the name of the Disney group back then. Maybe rec.arts.disney or some such thing.

That sounds about right... that is going back to my first days using the internet, in college. Ai ai ai. IRC, baby!

What exactly did you guys do before technology as readily accessible to find others...man that must have been so hard to find someone right?

Like I said above, IRC... I met my first college relationship on IRC. Met other people on various online roleplays (MUXes, kinda like MUDs, the predecessors to things like World of Warcraft). Met my partner on Second Life where there are actually a crap-ton of gay clubs AND faithful recreations of Disney rides, and even Wishes. Well, as faithful as you can get in pixels.

Yeah, I am relatively young (irl - but aincent in gay years)... 41yrs to be exact.

Jonas you are exactly my age. I'm starting to wonder if you're my brother from another mother. You weren't born in January were you?

 

[Jonas_Swe]

Jonas you are exactly my age. I'm starting to wonder if you're my brother from another mother. You weren't born in January were you?

Nope, I'm sorry... I'm born in September.

LOL!

 

[Princesca]

Nope, I'm sorry... I'm born in September.

LOL!

If you are a Virgo, that explains your love of emoticons. ROFLMAO.

 

[Jonas_Swe]

If you are a Virgo, that explains your love of emoticons. ROFLMAO.

I have no idea what you're talking about...

 

[mikelan6]

What's the topic of this thread? I'm lost.

 

[Princesca]

What's the topic of this thread? I'm lost.

The topic is...

 

[L&Lfan]

I adored the clubs circa 1978-1986. In them just about every night and weekends from around 4pm until closing. To me late '70s disco and early '80s HiNRG was the best! But I'm sure every generation feels that way about its music. I feel ancient now (56) and to be honest, the music has moved on to the point that I don't even much like it anymore. My boyfriend and I prefer the quieter bars now. And even the "straight" bars in our area (central CT) are pretty gay friendly.

 

[James L-P]

Random out of the blue moment but with news of MSEP ending at MK (thank goodness!) ....I am REALLY REALLY missing and feeling nostalgic for SpectroMagic again! I know it is sadly decommissioned and demolished but a little part of me wishes a SpectroMagic 2.0 is secretly under development or construction right now to replace MSEP.....the SpectroMagic music OMG...#goosebumps and #happytears right there!
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[Arodri17]

Also just for fun does anyone have Grindr? I had it what...5 years ago? However! I never hooked up with anyone from it (I promise!) I used it to mostly talk to people as I was lonely....however not suprisingly most conversations end up with turkey legs being sent to you...

Also this is kinda embarrassing but I actually met my future husband on Grindr after I denied going on a date with him like 4 times he wouldn't leave me alone so the caviet of meeting him was so then he'd leave me alone...

...he still hasn't

Thats funny.

I met my husband at a club (which is still a little taboo for some people) but yea, being LGBTQ is unconventional in so many ways, so of course the way we meet out partners is also unconventional, but it doesn't make it wrong. I totally get your point about not feeling comfortable at gay clubs. I haven't been in what seems like years. I prefer bars and other events. I love talking to people and feel like I have been missing out on socializing since I started my grad program. I need to get back out there. This is a baby step (online) lol.