Have you let your own teens drink alcohol

[avengerspoilerer]

I am not taking about the ritual some religions practice.

I live in a state where a parent can legally serve their own child alcohol. We all have an occasional drink with dinner.

We regularly hang out with parents who do the same thing. As long as we are present, we are not breaking the law.

Flash forward to pics from prom last night and I saw so much evidence of binge drinking. I asked my kid if there was any interest in that type of behavior and was told not in the slightest. We have taken the stigma out of drinking.

 

[dclpluto]

I am not taking about the ritual some religions practice.

I live in a state where a parent can legally serve their own child alcohol. We all have an occasional drink with dinner.

We regularly hang out with parents who do the same thing. As long as we are present, we are not breaking the law.

Flash forward to pics from prom last night and I saw so much evidence of binge drinking. I asked my kid if there was any interest in that type of behavior and was told not in the slightest. We have taken the stigma out of drinking.

Who is making the popcorn? No salt on mine please. Your 26 years old but you have a kid that went to the prom? Lol

 

[ronandannette]

I am not taking about the ritual some religions practice.

I live in a state where a parent can legally serve their own child alcohol. We all have an occasional drink with dinner.

We regularly hang out with parents who do the same thing. As long as we are present, we are not breaking the law.

Flash forward to pics from prom last night and I saw so much evidence of binge drinking. I asked my kid if there was any interest in that type of behavior and was told not in the slightest. We have taken the stigma out of drinking.

We didn't but then again we rarely had alcohol in the house. DS probably had a taste of wine or beer when it was accessible; I don't really remember. It wasn't a huge pearl-clutching "oh, no we would never" issue; more just that we don't really drink much and practically never at home.

ETA: I disagree very strongly with the assertion that young people only drink recklessly because they were restrained from doing so when they were underage.

 

[Floridaman999]

Dang, they sure are letting people adopt pretty young these days.

Yes, I allowed my children, when they were late teens, to have drinks at home during special occasions.

 

[Floridaman999]

Who is making the popcorn? No salt on mine please. Your 26 years old but you have a kid that went to the prom? Lol

Settings changed.

 

[BrinkofSunshine]

My mom was fairly lenient, especially when I turned 18 as that had been the legal drinking age when she was young. I actually haven’t been drunk since my senior year of high school. I don’t drink much at all and don’t purchase it for home consumption.

I think it’s naive to think a teen won’t try alcohol at some point.

 

[Floridaman999]

My mom was fairly lenient, especially when I turned 18 as that had been the legal drinking age when she was young. I actually haven’t been drunk since my senior year of high school. I don’t drink much at all and don’t purchase it for home consumption.

I think it’s naive to think a teen won’t try alcohol at some point.

I didn't want it to be a forbidden fruit, so my wife and I allowed them to try it in a safe and responsible way. None of them have drinking problems now and they're all old enough to buy it on their own now, so I guess it wasn't a terrible decision either way.

 

[mjkacmom]

Yes, I have, I have also witnessed a few of them hungover after a night of partying (before and after reaching the legal drinking age). I don’t thing allowing underaged kids to consume alcohol at home prevents overindulging outside the home.

 

[mom2rtk]

We don't drink, so haven't offered any to our kids. None of them was interested in binge drinking at prom either.

 

[Floridaman999]

Mine only do it now when they are tired of adulting.

 

[tvguy]

I was allowed to have a glass of wine with dinner at Thanksgiving and Christmas back as far as I can remember.
My kids were allowed the same.

 

[dancergirlsmom]

We live on the border with Canada where the legal drinking age is 19 so kids tend to go over there to drink. My DD 19 had never stated an interest until last Christmas when she asked if she could try wine. She tried it and didn't like it. My husband and I very seldom drink but it is in the house. My teen years were spent in Europe where we could drink without any problems at all. Teens also did not have driver's licenses and walked everywhere or took a bus. By the time I moved over here I was 24 and wasn't really bothered about drinking. If she wants a beer at home with us and is not driving, I would let here try it, or we could just go to Canada for dinner .

 

[avengerspoilerer]

Your 26 years old but you have a kid that went to the prom? Lol

Where did I once say MY kid went to the prom? Thank you for incorrectly reading. My wife and I do have a teenager. She's 40 and I am 26. The kid is 15.

 

[Floridaman999]

3/10

 

[kimblebee]

I drank all the time when I was 18. My parents even knew about it and bought me alcohol.







Oh, maybe that’s because it’s legal here.

 

[mousefan73]

I will have no choice in deciding with my teens as where we live you can legally buy and drink beer and wine at 16. Hard stuff at 18. A huge culture change to me. I grew up in the states where 21 is legal. (IMI a ridiculous age as one can buy a gun and get killed in a war much younger)... any ways...... now I live in Germany. In our small town it is not abnormal to see kids with 15 drining and drunk.. very SAD.. but not all do that.A lot has to do with parenting and what clique you belong to. My kids are still tweeny so I have some time. I know I will be harder than many parents here.. Even at 16 I will not allow them to get drunk in the house and if they come home wasted, there will be consiquences.

Another culture changes is that at 15/16 it's not unheard of that boyfriends/girlsfriends sleepover.. On their rooms...

but hey you can't drive a car until 18. So I guess having drunk sex is ok, but God forbit you drive.. I actually googled but legally sexual consent is 14.

 

[ronandannette]

I will have no choice in deciding with my teens as where we live you can legally buy and drink beer and wine at 16. Hard stuff at 18. A huge culture change to me. I grew up in the states where 21 is legal. (IMI a ridiculous age as one can buy a gun and get killed in a war much younger)... any ways...... now I live in Germany. In our small town it is not abnormal to see kids with 15 drining and drunk.. very SAD.. but not all do that.A lot has to do with parenting and what clique you belong to. My kids are still tweeny so I have some time. I know I will be harder than many parents here.. Even at 16 I will not allow them to get drunk in the house and if they come home wasted, there will be consiquences.

Another culture changes is that at 15/16 it's not unheard of that boyfriends/girlsfriends sleepover.. On their rooms...

but hey you can't drive a car until 18. So I guess having drunk sex is ok, but God forbit you drive.. I actually googled but legally sexual consent is 14.

My DS is 22 and the only way either of these things would happen under our roof is over my dead body. I don't think it really matters where you live; parents need to think through the way they want to raise their own kids and set boundaries for their own homes even after their offspring become adults. "Legal" doesn't mean mandatory.

 

[dosekies]

Not a parent, but am mid 20's and my parents didn't mind us drinking as long as we stayed safe. We were allowed to drink at home with them and they assumed if we went to parties in high school that there would be alcohol. They were very open in telling us to call them if needed and they would always pick us up if it means we weren't driving and friends could always stay over so they didn't drive home. My parents told us they knew drinking would probably happen whether they told us not to do it or not, so they would rather us be open with them about it than try to hide it and possibly put ourselves in serious danger because of it. Now that we're all over 21, my siblings and I love hanging out with our parents on weekends going out for drinks haha

 

[Hrhpd]

Who is making the popcorn? No salt on mine please. Your 26 years old but you have a kid that went to the prom? Lol

Must be related to Diswis, the 23 year old in settings who is 17 in posts and wants to go to Disney as a minor because they have spring break in February (and April) and school is already out for the summer.

OP, you have lived a pretty full life here on the DIS; married to a much older woman, raising a 15 year old, having gastric sleeve surgery in Mexico, subtle political statements with your favorite book...

Love summer vacation, lol. So entertaining when the kids start posting thinking they are funny.

And on the off chance this is actually real, yes, we have always let the teens drink with us. And as stated above, taking the novelty out of drinking, they never had any desire to binge drink at parties. They were usually the DD for their friends.

I will take my popcorn light butter, extra salt.

 

[neverlandsky]

Last year it was a glass of champagne on New Year’s Eve. DH has offered them a sip here and there of beer, rum, & whiskey during other holidays which I side eye my disapproval. Realistically though they’ve had more alcohol by taking OTC NyQuil over the years.