skittles67
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- Jan 14, 2017
You do not owe her any more explanation than what has already been said. I think it is very rude of her to ask you what other obligations you have.
You have to realize that if you turn down invites eventually you won’t get any.
How rude of them. You don’t need to account for your movements. A polite RSVP is quite sufficient . Ignore the latest question.So we have been invited to a holiday open house party at some friends house... We declined, I rsvp'ed and just said sorry we can't make it... hope you have a great time... we are just very casual friends with... they are friend of some other friends sorta thing....
I got a text, asking why we weren't coming?
I rsvp'ed and think that should be enough... most people don't even rsvp...
I responded with "we have other obligations, sorry we can't make it and again have a wonderful time"...
She texted back... " What other OBLIGATIONS ???"
Which I did not respond back to...
DH is just tell her, its because her house is filthy and disgusting.... and there is cat hair everywhere, so bad you can't sit down... without getting up and looking like you are part Yeti, and we don't want to hear about her political views that she will be spewing the whole time... and there was some other comments that aren't Disney friendly.... so the truth basically...
We do have another function earlier in the day, so not really a out and out lie... but a stretch... for sure...
So should I once again respond "Sorry we can't make it"... and leave it at that... or just not respond back at all...
Sounds like the OP would be very happy to never be invited to their filthy house again
Then why are they even friends? I don’t get it.
You say that like it is a bad thing.You have to realize that if you turn down invites eventually you won’t get any.
THIS!!!Personally I would not be rude (even though it may feel good LOL). I would reply with, "it's such a busy time of year and we have another party we already committed to." and leave it at that. If she continues to persist, I would probably ignore it.
You have to realize that if you turn down invites eventually you won’t get any.
Then why are they even friends? I don’t get it.
I agree completely.This is one thing that as I have gotten older, I care less and less about. An invitation is just that. If I am available and WANT to go to something, I do. If not, I decline.
I realize that declining may have other ramifications (like not getting invited again, etc.) but honestly I don't need that additional tension in my life. I have very little downtime and I need to be extroverted during the many hours a week I work. Therefore, I only attend things that I really want to attend.
My mother, who is much less assertive than I am, gets herself pressured into doing things all.the.time and then complains to me about how they turn out. I always say to her, "I told you to just say no, or I can't or I am busy." But she will never learn.
OP, just do not respond. Or lie.
That was how I felt about my best friend's place before they had their new one made for them. The old place lacked hot water (lukewarm at best), had unfinished bathrooms and floors, the carpets were very gross, etc. How she lived there as long as she did I have no idea lol. My other best friend lived there for a while too and really disliked it (but she needed a place to stay and they didn't charge much rent so she went with it but when she left she was so happy).You can like someone enough to want to spend time with them, but not want to go to their home if it is filthy.
My sister's house is absolutely disgusting. I will go there, but I don't feel comfortable eating and would not want to spend the night. I love my sister and don't want to hurt her feelings so, like for the OP, it would be preferable if she would just stop inviting us rather than me having to make excuses.