Yesterday was all about paperwork and details. I spoke with the funeral home to book my "after care" appointment where they will help me through all the filings - never realised how much there is to do. Called the insurance company, worked on the taxes. The insurance agent was really helpful about steps I should take in order to make sure I can still have access to everything I need after the death certificate is filed.
Today we will begin to put the house back in order. It seriously looks like a bomb was detonated. For two months, things have just sat. Laundry has piled up. Well, everything has piled up. I needed somewhere to put meds and things DH needed handy when he was home for the one week he came back. I used to home school the kids so I grabbed one of the little plastic three drawer units I had used for their school work - BUT it was still full of school work. That all got dumped on the kitchen table where it has sat for three and a half weeks. Pillows and blankets got thrown down the stairs as they came off the hospital bed the day it was picked up. They are still a lump where they landed. Just stuff everywhere. I start somewhere and get distracted by some other pile of junk that needs to be dealt with.
Flowers and food also arrived yesterday. Several floral arrangements, two separate pans of lasagna (froze one) with salad and giant bread sticks, an edible fruit bouquet. People are so thoughtful. Some of this was from the kids friends. DS's best friend took yesterday off school, stayed the night before (last night too, I think) and has just hung out with him for two days. His girlfriend took the afternoon off and she and her mother made one of the lasagnas and brought it over. DD's boyfriend brought her a bouquet and card. Friends are making sure she's always busy too.
My brother's family went home but he is staying through the weekend. He is going to reverse the wiring he did three weeks ago to move DH's office upstairs and return it to the basement where it will become the gaming room. DS is pretty happy about that. Lots of room now for his buddies to have gaming marathons. So that means today is furniture move day. We had one of the kids' friends living with us for a while last year and he used some of DS's furniture. Its in the basement where we set up his room. We have to move it up, move the pull out sofa down so he and his friends will have somewhere to hang out. Lots of activity today so I better go get started!
MIL is not happy we aren't having a traditional service for DH. I explained that was why I offered that she could take a small portion of his remains. She can do her own whatever, down where she lives. I'm sticking to our plans, although didn't detail them for her. Simply said we would have a remembrance he would have liked at a future date since he hated funerals. His cremation is today. She thought we would be going to that. I explained no that is not typical - to witness the cremation. Definitely not anything I would want to see!!
