so if men were flirting all over you ladies, and your husband, cause he trust you, didn't care. that's good but I don't think everyone thinks like that, but maybe everyone does
I would say there’s a difference between other people flirting with your partner and your partner flirting with other people (which we would probably be jealous/upset about if it ever happened, but it never has).
We are not really ever in situations to have a bunch of people “flirting all over” one of us, but when we do encounter flirting, it’s quickly shut down and we both find it funny. No jealousy.
Ex. We (mid-30s) were out at a bar with live music with some older friends (50) last week. We were sitting at a high top table near the stage and lots of drunk ladies kept coming up front and dancing. One girl tried dancing all up on DH, he shook his head “no”, she moved on and we all started laughing and teasing him about it.
He gets flirted with almost everywhere he goes. (Even all the ladies that work at the gas station down the road are in love with him.) I don’t even have a fleeting moment of concern. Honestly, I take it as a compliment that I have an attractive spouse.
That said, I think that’s based on the strength of our relationship and our emotional maturity. I’m fairly certain there were some brief moments of jealousy in our early relationship. But, we were teenagers living apart at college. So, there was probably a fear in both of our minds that someone could potentially “steal” our partner away. It seemed rational to view other interested people as potential threats. We never acted jealous, but I know the feelings were there on occasion. Now, nearly 20 years later that fear has long since been replaced with trust and stability.