- Jun 8, 2007
I'm not talking about the legal issues, all of which are related to the "piece of paper" or common law marriage laws which are also "pieces of paper." I am talking about dating and moving on with a relationship. How are any of the things you mentioned going to keep someone from moving on? Should any of those things keep someone from moving on to another relationship? I am not assuming anything. You seem to be assuming that most married couples were in love and are sad over their divorce. Some are, but many other people are not. They are ready to move on with someone else.On basic terms division of assests, things you can and can't do on a variety of things.
Heck even as simple as car insurance. When I used to work for the insurance company we couldn't remove a spouse from a policy unless they were considered legally divorced (separation did not count). For the purposes of auto insurance spouses were considered one and thus covered. Living in separate residences didn't mean that legally the husband couldn't drive the wife's car or the wife couldn't drive the husband's car, at least in respects to the car insurance especially if they were on the title to the vehicle (which is the case no matter the relationship between two people).
Medical insurance is another thing.
Divorce itself can be done quickly depending on the state. The consequences of said divorce often take time depending on the individual couple.
Reconciliation, while it may not be entirely common, is something I think people often thing of when they hear about people getting involved with those still considered married. Agreeing to separate and the actual finalization of a divorce is not the same thing and in the simplist ways it's quite easy to say "let's separate" than it is to agree to go through the entire process of divorce. Even my own parents separated, got back together, did counciling for over a year after having already done conciling prior to the separation and finally said nope and went through the process of divorce.
Don't assume that your situation applies to the majority. It's really not just a piece of paper anymore than marriage is just a piece of paper and continuing to say it's just a piece of paper misses the mark. Even in my state common law marriage, which has no paper attached to it, comes with it's own special issues. If you are in a common law marriage you still go through the same legal divorce process even though a piece of paper wasn't there to begin with to state you are married.