I guess in my opinion, there are two different types of vacations. Experiences/Relaxing. I personally don't see going to WDW as a relaxing resort type vacation. I also don't see ANY of the restaurants at WDW as fine dining, maybe with the exception of V&A. I think there are NICE restaurants, but nothing that will go down as a top 50 in my life time. I can think of about a hundred other resorts to go to for a "relaxing vacation". I think of WDW as the "happiest place on earth". I remember the feeling I had the night before I went to DL growing up in California, and the time I went to WDW with my great grandfather in 1980. These memories have nothing to do with where we stayed. By the way, we never stayed anywhere... we lived within an hours drive of DL, and DGG lived in Orlando. I hope to instill in my son to take it easy, not judge, and have fun. We stay in values because we are at the parks all day, and my son just gets a kick out of seeing a HUGE Cell Phone. I don't see the point of spending more. Sit at a pool, covered with love bugs in September. No thanks.
I'll also instill in him to aspire for more, while experiencing everything. I hope when he's young he backpacks through Europe with a couple of hundred dollars to his name, much like his mom did... and when he's older truly relax on the beaches of the Amalfi Coast of Italy. I hope he knows the difference between people who have truly lived, and people who fake it.
Seriously if you dislike the DDP/Value people so much, why go. You've got 45 visits under your belt. Go elsewhere. The country's real big. Guess what, there are even people who brown bag it in the parks. They can't even afford the DDP. Shocking, I know. THEY EAT CEREAL BEFORE THEY GO TO THE PARKS!!! Really, I can see why this is so upseting to you. Take care.