Is this too much to spend on dinner? My friend says so.

Eluna

Earning My Ears
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I'd like to preface this by saying that I'm a nurse in my late twenties. I'm not exactly rolling in dough. During the year I save and instead of buying tangible things, I put it toward a (Disney) vacation. I use coupons. I buy on sale. I plan my vacation time on when I can get the best deals on flights and accommodations. What I'm trying to say is that I don't blow money or buy unnecessary things. I know how to shop and budget. I have also hauled my crock pot on Disney world vacations, just to save that extra dollar.

My friend and I are going on vacation to Paris. While we are there on a 10 day trip, four of those days will be spent at Disney. I told my friend that I wanted to eat at a nice restaurant there and I wanted to get table service on at least one day. I told her that the rest of the time we can eat at the quick service places or wherever she wanted to eat. I honestly just wanted to go to one nice place, like Chez Remy or Auberge de Cendrillon. Of course, my friend looks online at the menus and starts freaking out over prices since it was basically be $60-$90 per person. She starts telling me that she can't believe I'd entertain the idea of spending "that much" for one meal. My only response was that it's not every day that we are there and we'd be paying for quality food. She insisted that there was no way she'd be that much for one meal. Yes, she can afford it but it's way more than what she's comfortable with. And she restated that she couldn't believe I'd be willing to pay that much for one dinner. In the end, we ended up on settling on another restaurant that would be responsible and under $30. I'm satisfied with the restaurant we chose but still... I am a little annoyed.

Yes, $60-$90 is a lot to spend on one meal (for me, I know others spend more than that) but why not? We're on vacation and it's not something we do every day. A night out for me at home is Olive Garden. I don't splurge often, but I don't feel like I'm ridiculous for wanting to spend a little more money for a nicer dining experience. That's not a bad thing, right? I don't know. I guess I'm just trying to justify spending the extra money. But now I just feel so guilty about it.

I guess I'm posting to vent/ask for opinions. Is that a crazy amount to spend on dinner?
 
I'd like to preface this by saying that I'm a nurse in my late twenties. I'm not exactly rolling in dough. During the year I save and instead of buying tangible things, I put it toward a (Disney) vacation. I use coupons. I buy on sale. I plan my vacation time on when I can get the best deals on flights and accommodations. What I'm trying to say is that I don't blow money or buy unnecessary things. I know how to shop and budget. I have also hauled my crock pot on Disney world vacations, just to save that extra dollar.

My friend and I are going on vacation to Paris. While we are there on a 10 day trip, four of those days will be spent at Disney. I told my friend that I wanted to eat at a nice restaurant there and I wanted to get table service on at least one day. I told her that the rest of the time we can eat at the quick service places or wherever she wanted to eat. I honestly just wanted to go to one nice place, like Chez Remy or Auberge de Cendrillon. Of course, my friend looks online at the menus and starts freaking out over prices since it was basically be $60-$90 per person. She starts telling me that she can't believe I'd entertain the idea of spending "that much" for one meal. My only response was that it's not every day that we are there and we'd be paying for quality food. She insisted that there was no way she'd be that much for one meal. Yes, she can afford it but it's way more than what she's comfortable with. And she restated that she couldn't believe I'd be willing to pay that much for one dinner. In the end, we ended up on settling on another restaurant that would be responsible and under $30. I'm satisfied with the restaurant we chose but still... I am a little annoyed.

Yes, $60-$90 is a lot to spend on one meal (for me, I know others spend more than that) but why not? We're on vacation and it's not something we do every day. A night out for me at home is Olive Garden. I don't splurge often, but I don't feel like I'm ridiculous for wanting to spend a little more money for a nicer dining experience. That's not a bad thing, right? I don't know. I guess I'm just trying to justify spending the extra money. But now I just feel so guilty about it.

I guess I'm posting to vent/ask for opinions. Is that a crazy amount to spend on dinner?

It doesn't matter if we think it's too much to spend on a meal. Everyone is going to have a difference of opinion about this. If YOU think it's something you want to do then YOU have to decide if you're okay spending that much on a meal. If your friend doesn't agree, then maybe you and her split up for the night and she can go eat somewhere else. It's not like you're getting back to Paris anytime soon (probably), and you may regret missing out on that experience because your friend doesn't want to spend that money.

I guess I'm saying that neither of you is right or wrong here. Just do what YOU want. If she gets mad that you're ditching her, then maybe she's not the friend to travel with.
 
How was she comfortable paying for the flight but not for the meal? It's like people who spend $4000+ on a cruise but then balk at the idea of spending $20 for Palo. Once you're committed, you might as well make the most of it.
When I saw your thread title, I was thinking $250+ per person. At just 2-3 times your settled on price, you are paying for not only food, but an experience that you would forever remember.
 
I vote to go with what you want to do. Chez Remy's is so fun. We had dinner there in May, service and food were very good. Its so well done with the themeing, and we really enjoyed it. maybe you could share a meal, get a appetizer, entree' and dessert and then split the bill. just a suggestion....

As far as the price, that's left up to each person, for us it was what we expected. We were on the Half board plus plan which was part of our package... You might want to check out the packages that are offered, they will include hotel, park tickets, and some offer dinning options. Which might work out better for you. We stayed at Newport Bay - club level, our package including tickets which are park hoppers, half board plus ( breakfast was in the club room), plus one extra fastpass each person per day. Our friends did the same trip and stayed off site, and they spent around 600.00 euros more than we did. With all that said, even if we were paying out of pocket we would have been happy.

I will say that dinning in Paris is costly, well really everything in Paris is expensive.... so your friend might need to understand that Paris is one of the most expensive cities in the world. We stopped in a cafe for lunch near Notre Dame Cathedral, and got a burger & sandwich, and each a glass of wine, and it was 60.00 euros. This was not fancy at all, so be prepared. We budgeted and spent almost double what we normally do for food on this trip.

I love Paris, ... it will be a amazing journey.
 
In 2016, DH had a business trip to Paris. I went with him along with DD19, DS17, and my Pop. We stayed in the Montmartre section of Paris where there are a lot of cafes. We didn't spend more that 15 Euro per person on any one dinner (prix fixe 2 courses), and the food was out of this world! Every night, every location. We got very spoiled. We took one day and went to Disney. It had a totally different feel than Orlando or Anaheim, and their food selections were mediocre. Of course, this was all counter service. I don't know the restaurants you mentioned, and I can only hope table service is better than their counter service. Also, we had been eating amazing food all week.

I know you're disappointed with the table service chosen, but maybe you can convince your friend to splurge on a Michelin star restaurant in Paris instead. Also, I saw where PP paid 60 euro for burger, sandwich, and wine near Notre Dame. We found that if you go off the main tourist area road a couple of blocks, the prices drop. All the restaurants had menu posted outside so you know the cost before you go in.

I hope you have a great vacation....France is fantastic!
 
Different people have different priorities and there's really no "right" or "wrong." Personally, I can't imagine traveling all the way to Paris and then spending nearly half the time in a theme park, but that doesn't make it wrong for you to do it.

It seems unfair that you should have to compromise on something that's so important to you, but it's also unfair to expect your friend to spend more than she's comfortable with. The only sensible solution is for the two of you to split up for the evening. If you're spending 10 whole days together, a meal apart might be incredibly welcome.
 
Some people value high-end dining; some people don't. Seems you and your friend fall into the separate categories.

As for me, I love high end dining, BUT I find deals to do it. When I was in London (and poor), I hit pre-theater menus at high end places to save lots, while still enjoying the place. In the US, I tend to do lunch or Restaurant Weeks/Magical Dining Months/etc at high end places b/c I still don't have the money to splurge...or I have my spouse get a gift card for my birthday, so I don't worry about the money.

So, this is a long way of saying...neither of you is wrong...and neither of you will likely convince the other...so, your choice is to spend a night solo or enjoy your friend more than the food (since the "non-conflict" answer is to eat cheaper)...
 
I would go alone. Otherwise I would be afraid I might regret not going later. I believe if that experience is something that excites you then it's worth the money. It could be a trip highlight.

Last winter I took a cruise with friends. I am always on a tight budget so I choose carefully what I will spend money on. A couple friends wanted to get a beach bungalow on the private island. They both are very fair and wanted a place to escape the sun. At first I said what???? I don't need that, I love the sun. But then I got to thinking about it and I realized I wasn't considering their feelings or needs. I mean I could have sat out in the sun and let them get the cabana but it wasn't going to hurt me to put in the $40 to spread the cost around either. It turned out to be one of my favorite days! So relaxing and felt pampered.
 
Different people have different priorities and there's really no "right" or "wrong." Personally, I can't imagine traveling all the way to Paris and then spending nearly half the time in a theme park, but that doesn't make it wrong for you to do it.

...you are like the 7th person to comment that, haha. I love Disney. What can I say. And there's a ton of stuff to see in Paris on the other six days...
 
How was she comfortable paying for the flight but not for the meal? It's like people who spend $4000+ on a cruise but then balk at the idea of spending $20 for Palo. Once you're committed, you might as well make the most of it.
When I saw your thread title, I was thinking $250+ per person. At just 2-3 times your settled on price, you are paying for not only food, but an experience that you would forever remember.

I honestly don't get it either. Although, I will say that we got deeply discounted tickets because we waited for the prices to go down. As for food, she does realize that that will cost us. I guess the higher end restaurants just aren't in her budget. I can understand that I guess, but she just made me feel guilty about spending "that much money on one meal".

I don't dare vent any of this to my husband. Good grief. He would keel over on the spot lol. But once again, we are used to our $35-$40 dinners.
 
One meal, fine. Most meals, that is nuts.

But full disclosure. Some of my under 30 co-workers have been overjoyed that one of the bars is offering $150 A NIGHT....PER PERSON..... all you can drink deals....$200 a night for "premium spirits"
40 years ago when I was there age, we went to the place that had the 99 cent cocktail of the month....and unlimited free popcorn. So not everyone shares by perspective.
 
Ha, everything about Disney is overpriced. Don't know you both managed to get past the sticker shock for the airline, and DLP tickets, but then are roadblocked by a meal...
 
Ha, everything about Disney is overpriced. Don't know you both managed to get past the sticker shock for the airline, and DLP tickets, but then are roadblocked by a meal...

Oh, I wasn't shocked by anything. Like I said, I don't spend throughout the year so I can have fun on vacation! Really the DLP tickets were less than the ones at Disney... Our flights were around $500 each, round trip. Believe it or not, this trip is falling within budget LOL. It's just the meal that she had a huge problem with.
 
I went on a trip (including Paris) with a friend who had larger spending habits than I do. I'm a single mom, and I budget carefully for my trips. There were things that were necessities for my friend that weren't important to me at all. The "Why not?" may just be that her budget is already pushing its limits.
 
60-90$ per person isn't really anything. In Vegas 4 of us did a Wagyu Steak Chef tasting for 250$ per person. Bill was over 1000$ for 4 people, but it was worth every penny. Best meal of my life.
In a town like Las Vegas with $21 all you can eat seafood buffets.......YES $60-$90 a person IS something.
 

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