Times obviously have changed again.
One of my proposals was done at a restaurant in front of my mother and his parents. I didn't have any issues with the setting or other members of the party. Also dinna have problems not giving a definitive yes. I thought the setting and other attendees was correct but the timing in our relationship wrong.
As far as the OP's specific question, I get what she is saying and think the solution might be to talk directly with her son about whether he would be unhappy with her presence or not. I also think he should be paying for his own proposal costs as a sign of being a fully mature adult but maybe that's just me. That doesn't mean I don't get the mom's generous assistance.
One of my proposals was done at a restaurant in front of my mother and his parents. I didn't have any issues with the setting or other members of the party. Also dinna have problems not giving a definitive yes. I thought the setting and other attendees was correct but the timing in our relationship wrong.
As far as the OP's specific question, I get what she is saying and think the solution might be to talk directly with her son about whether he would be unhappy with her presence or not. I also think he should be paying for his own proposal costs as a sign of being a fully mature adult but maybe that's just me. That doesn't mean I don't get the mom's generous assistance.