sdoll
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- Jan 5, 2005
We live in a neighborhood with our 2 boys and they are friends with 3 other boys in the neighborhood. They have been thick as thieves for years. There is one boy that although we all like him is a bit tougher to like and over the last 1.5 years all the kids hang out with him a bit less than they used to. Last year we took all the boys on a vacation to Florida with us. All the boys were great except for the one. He lied to us at times, didn't help with keeping the condo clean, was a bit ungreatful and really just didn't follow our rules, which weren't to crazy. Fast forward to this year and the boys don't want him to go on our next adventure with us. We haven't told him yet. We also haven't talked to his parents about it. They know we had some issues on the last trip but we didn't go into too much detail as we felt we addressed it with the kid on vacation.
Here's the question do we owe them an expalination that we aren't inviting him on this trip? Should we give them a heads up? We used to be close to them but had a bit of a falling out a few years ago and they have since seperated. I feel really bad hurting the kids feelings but at the same time he isn't always the nicest kid. I just don't know what to do! Last year on our trip he was really grumpy and we were all upset with him. He went on to tell us his dog died and thats why he was so grumpy. We all were doing our best to cheer him up and felt horrible that we were frustrated. I texted his parents that afternoon to let them know how he was doing with the news of losing his dog. THE DOG WASN'T DEAD!
I am so torn if I should talk to him or his parents about our upcoming vacation without him. He's 13 if that makes a difference
Edit: Our neighbor boy was over yesterday and asked if we were taking a vacation this year. UGH!! I waited until I had the opportunity to talk to him alone. I explained to him that we were taking a vaction but at the time we booked it he and my son weren't getting along and that we didn't include him in our tip this year. I also explained that I had some concerns/frustrations about his behavior and helpfulness on the last trip. He took it about as good as a 13 year old can. I feel horrible but also feel better that I was honest with him. I don't plan on addressing his parents unless they approach us (which I could see them doing). I hate hurting kids. While the kids aren't as close with him as they used to be I will always have a soft spot in my heart for him and felt like a horrible person when I told him.
Here's the question do we owe them an expalination that we aren't inviting him on this trip? Should we give them a heads up? We used to be close to them but had a bit of a falling out a few years ago and they have since seperated. I feel really bad hurting the kids feelings but at the same time he isn't always the nicest kid. I just don't know what to do! Last year on our trip he was really grumpy and we were all upset with him. He went on to tell us his dog died and thats why he was so grumpy. We all were doing our best to cheer him up and felt horrible that we were frustrated. I texted his parents that afternoon to let them know how he was doing with the news of losing his dog. THE DOG WASN'T DEAD!
I am so torn if I should talk to him or his parents about our upcoming vacation without him. He's 13 if that makes a difference
Edit: Our neighbor boy was over yesterday and asked if we were taking a vacation this year. UGH!! I waited until I had the opportunity to talk to him alone. I explained to him that we were taking a vaction but at the time we booked it he and my son weren't getting along and that we didn't include him in our tip this year. I also explained that I had some concerns/frustrations about his behavior and helpfulness on the last trip. He took it about as good as a 13 year old can. I feel horrible but also feel better that I was honest with him. I don't plan on addressing his parents unless they approach us (which I could see them doing). I hate hurting kids. While the kids aren't as close with him as they used to be I will always have a soft spot in my heart for him and felt like a horrible person when I told him.
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