Was it permanent?
My sisters and I haven't spoken in 2 1/2 years.
I don't know if it will ever be resolved.
I never thought I would be saying this, but maybe I'm better off.
Have you ever felt this way/had this happen?
Sadly yes, I didn’t speak to my sister for about 7 or 8 years. The sad part is I don’t know why, she had a falling out with my Mother, and wrote us both off. When my mother was dying my husband messaged her ( I was livid ), and her response was something like ”what am I supposed to do”. Anyway, she never came to The hospital, funeral, zilch. We sort of speak, she is extremely selfish.
Both our natural parents have now passed, and both left her out of their wills. I have no other siblings, and it hurts, but it is what it is.
Do you think you are better off? If you are ok with it, only you know. I would have been fine never speaking to her, my husband started it, and so we are civil, and see each other maybe twice a year. I use her vacation home Here and there when she isn‘t using it. She has resentment that she was left out of the wills, and I Try to let it go that she could not have even come help me decide in a 24 hour span on life support for our Mother.
I'm not sure what you can do with a narcissistic family member other than be willing to tolerate/humor them, or walk away. There doesn't seem to be the option of middle ground. Doesn't stop it hurting, though.
Very true. I am not even sure why I try sometimes, but I do. Every Xmas we travel, two years ago just as we were about to go she got ill, it ended up being her gallbladder, I felt awful as we have zero family aside from ourselves, she is single, so we left two days later, aNd I waited to make sure she was ok, visited her, brought her what she needed, saw her home safely. Two weeks ago, I thought mine was acting up, texted her saying “Hi, how are you, can I ask your opinion on something”, she answers me “ it better be quick I’ve just finished work, so what do you want”. She has not even gotten in touch with me to see how I am. It is just not how I work, thankfully I have a best friend who is like me, and cares. We call ourselves sisters .