Mama Twinkles
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Lately I've been thinking about the term "traditional marriage." To me it implies an authoritarian male and a subjugated female who shores him up, a kind of folie a deux that hurts everyone. On those grounds, I OPPOSE traditional marriage, and so does most of America! Perhaps gays are just a convenient target for those who cling to an outdated model of relationships that almost the entire culture wants to put behind us. They are right that "traditional marriage" is under siege, but they are wrong about who is responsible and in seeing that outcome as a bad thing.
This isn't just a semantic game. I really do think homophobia is rooted in misogyny and that it is the traditionalists who pretend to themselves and others that gays are the threat when really they are threatened by the freedom for women and gays and heterosexual non-traditionalists of both sexes of the last 35 years. Neither are divorce or out-of-wedlock childbearing truly what bother them, though those do undercut their security in old-fashioned roles.
This isn't just a semantic game. I really do think homophobia is rooted in misogyny and that it is the traditionalists who pretend to themselves and others that gays are the threat when really they are threatened by the freedom for women and gays and heterosexual non-traditionalists of both sexes of the last 35 years. Neither are divorce or out-of-wedlock childbearing truly what bother them, though those do undercut their security in old-fashioned roles.