Mkrop
I just cant go on demand
- Joined
- Feb 26, 2007
But for some it happens all the time. I am sad for those who may not fit in socially, who struggle to adapt to social norms or ideas. Those are often the ones who grow up and do great things, but the kid years are hard on them.
I was not this kid, but I see these kids all the time.
They know they won't be included this time. Or the next. Or the next.
I try to help those kids find "each other" so that they do have friends to spend time with. it doesn't always work, but I try.
This reminds me of DS13's classmate V. V has always been an odd duck. Into things that the others are not. Our school is very sports oriented, he is not etc. But it seems as he has reached middle school, he has gotten worse. Probably a maturity factor but it is tough to hear how he is actually making it hard for himself to "fit in". Now DS13 has struggled with this as well at times, so I remind him that he was like V too and to be kind. V doesnt like the girls right now and is sometimes too vocal about it. On April Fools Day, many of the teachers "allowed" themselves to be pranked, so the 7th graders had what they thought were these elaborate ideas to prank their teachers. One teacher hates clicky pens and so they were all going to click their pens at 9:58. Another teacher they were all going to stand up and do the "dab", and finally one teacher hated a song, so they all set their Ipads to play that song at the same time. V went into the first class and announced what they were doing and that he wanted no part of it. So he ruined the "surprise". Like I said the teachers "tolerate" the one prank on that day and he did not seem to get why everyone was mad at him and he got a lot of grief for it. I mean some were downright mean to him and DS13 was slightly annoyed as well. They still did their pranks. I reminded him that no matter what he we not to get on V and to be kind. I reminded him that just a few years ago he would have been the one "ratting" out the class. We had many talks about when you need to tell the teacher things and when you need to stay quiet.