We had a rough year in 3rd grade at the end of the school year, she had to discipline him and 2 other boys just like him, quite often.
What's conflicting me is that I know he can:
*sit thru a movie/tv show
*complete any project that interests him involving tools, like helping to assemble a table, taking the chain off of his bike, helping his dad mow the lawn, firing up a compressor (of course under adult supervision).
* he shows love and affection to our dog
* showers his younger nieces with smiles and hugs
* shows affection to us too, but we have to go to him or ask him for a goodnight hug or kiss and he complies
* complete assignments at school, not always on time, but he will
What he cannot do or does and it's serious:
*go for long rides or he's irritable and nasty, will provoke me and his sister to the point I want to drop him off at the nearest police station!
* respect you're personal space - he'll bump into you, walk over and on you
* respect you're personal possessions (has to play with everything and anything)
* has to have control of situations, has to have the tv remote
* argumentative and nasty comments and yelling and crying fits
* he cannot be respectful, he created the word "rude" and when I give him a look to provoke a thank you to someone or any other kind of respectful answer he'll such say it with attitude, not sincerely. He'll even be rude to an adult
*his attitude is usually "I don't care!"
We've been dealing with for about 4 years now and though the teacher won't say she thinks he ADD or the like, she kept stressing "impulse control" is what he lacks. He will show remorse when reprimanded but will repeat the action the next day and doesn't seem to care how it affects the classroom or the teacher trying to do her job.
My DH and I have had lenghty discussions and talks with him, taken things away, confined him to his room until he could comply and it's all in vain - he just doesn't care. His grades are considered average, though he is extremely articulate and smart.
I let him sleep as long as he wants since we're on summer vacation, only because I'm guilty of wanting peace in the house until he wakes up. How can a mother have love a child so much and but not like him? I'm so torn and I feel terrible that maybe I didn't so such a great job raising a second child, my oldest is nothing like this.
I know I need to seek help for him. We did see a counselor one time who couldn't fit me in for the 2nd session for 2 months, I am not joking.
My friends all notice his behavior and asking us to get together less and less all the time, I would do that too if I were them.
Sorry this is so long winded, this really needed to be let out because my friends just don't understand or want to know what may be the problem. Am I now in for a lifetime of torment and anguish with my son? NOT ONE DAY goes by that I don't raise my voice or make him leave his older sister alone, or scream that my kitchen table is not where you leave you're remote control boats after taking them off of the lake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just want to smash them and their remotes, it's a just a constant lack of respect for me and I'm just so disgusted and depressed. I always knew instintively that if I had a boy, he'd be trouble and my instinct was dead on.
Thank you for reading this if you have made it this far, the tears are streaming and don't know what today will bring, but knowing you DIS'ers have some same experiences to share will give me hope and encouragement to move forward.
What's conflicting me is that I know he can:
*sit thru a movie/tv show
*complete any project that interests him involving tools, like helping to assemble a table, taking the chain off of his bike, helping his dad mow the lawn, firing up a compressor (of course under adult supervision).
* he shows love and affection to our dog
* showers his younger nieces with smiles and hugs
* shows affection to us too, but we have to go to him or ask him for a goodnight hug or kiss and he complies
* complete assignments at school, not always on time, but he will
What he cannot do or does and it's serious:
*go for long rides or he's irritable and nasty, will provoke me and his sister to the point I want to drop him off at the nearest police station!
* respect you're personal space - he'll bump into you, walk over and on you
* respect you're personal possessions (has to play with everything and anything)
* has to have control of situations, has to have the tv remote
* argumentative and nasty comments and yelling and crying fits
* he cannot be respectful, he created the word "rude" and when I give him a look to provoke a thank you to someone or any other kind of respectful answer he'll such say it with attitude, not sincerely. He'll even be rude to an adult
*his attitude is usually "I don't care!"
We've been dealing with for about 4 years now and though the teacher won't say she thinks he ADD or the like, she kept stressing "impulse control" is what he lacks. He will show remorse when reprimanded but will repeat the action the next day and doesn't seem to care how it affects the classroom or the teacher trying to do her job.
My DH and I have had lenghty discussions and talks with him, taken things away, confined him to his room until he could comply and it's all in vain - he just doesn't care. His grades are considered average, though he is extremely articulate and smart.
I let him sleep as long as he wants since we're on summer vacation, only because I'm guilty of wanting peace in the house until he wakes up. How can a mother have love a child so much and but not like him? I'm so torn and I feel terrible that maybe I didn't so such a great job raising a second child, my oldest is nothing like this.
I know I need to seek help for him. We did see a counselor one time who couldn't fit me in for the 2nd session for 2 months, I am not joking.
My friends all notice his behavior and asking us to get together less and less all the time, I would do that too if I were them.
Sorry this is so long winded, this really needed to be let out because my friends just don't understand or want to know what may be the problem. Am I now in for a lifetime of torment and anguish with my son? NOT ONE DAY goes by that I don't raise my voice or make him leave his older sister alone, or scream that my kitchen table is not where you leave you're remote control boats after taking them off of the lake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just want to smash them and their remotes, it's a just a constant lack of respect for me and I'm just so disgusted and depressed. I always knew instintively that if I had a boy, he'd be trouble and my instinct was dead on.
Thank you for reading this if you have made it this far, the tears are streaming and don't know what today will bring, but knowing you DIS'ers have some same experiences to share will give me hope and encouragement to move forward.