So, since I can't air out in another forum, I have a pickle of a situation that I don't know how to handle. Maybe someone far wiser than I can make me see the light.
I have a niece and nephew that as soon as they come into my house will go up and down opening my shutters and or opening the refrigerator and looking and then they go and ask mom for whatever I have. Let me state -
I don't mind sharing anything I have, my problem is that they come in opening up my drawers and then run to their mom and ask if they can have this. Yesterday for instance, I caught my niece in the kitchen opening and moving my fridge magnets. I asked her not to do that. I even asked her not to open the fridge, to go and find something to do. (We were holding a Relay For Life Meeting). She is 5 yrs old and is advanced for her age. She ignored me and while I was playing hostess, she went and asked her mom if she could have a string cheese. These are special ones that are in the back of the bottom drawer underneath something so they are not in plain sight. I heard this and before I could answer, her mom said - did you open the fridge by yourself or did April (my DD) do it? Her answer was: I did it - I was hungry and wanted something to eat. Her mom told her she could and I was a bit put off by this. So I told her, No, I asked you NOT to do that - this is my house and I have different rules and if she could not listen to my rules, she would not be allowed into my house like her brother was banned for 2 months for stealing (granted it was only $0.50) but stealing is stealing.
My friends and family are split. SIL says that she does it all the time at grandma's house and made it seem as if this was ok but this is my house. Was or is it just me? Did I overreact? I ended up giving the string cheese to her but I wasn't happy about it. Right after, my niece was happy for about 3 minutes and then went off in search of my cabinets.
I am wondering what kind of grandparent I am going to be and if I overreacted? Am I just an obsessed, crazy adult that doesn't like kids? I will be the first to help someone out but when it comes to nieces and nephews, I can't get them to listen to me AT MY OWN HOUSE. Hence, the reason I suspect that I hardly invite family over. If I react this way to toddlers now, what will I be like when my own grandchildren come? Should I lower my standards? I felt a bit justified later when my youngest told me I shouldn't have given in but April's known to not get along with little girls - guess its an Aries thing.
Anyway, it still bothers me today and since I can't post it elsewhere (mom is a friend) had to air out here. Someone tell me that I'm not being a neurotic or that I'm justified or at least convince me that I need to loosen up and go with the flow......am I
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Crazy Aunt in SoCal