Yeah...but that's not at all what I said and I think you know that
You can ask all you want, you can still be that caring mom. She just didn't have to disclose the information to you and in your original comment it was " For her to suddenly not
want to tell me how things were going just because she turned 18" you were upset that she didn't want to disclose that, why would you choose to make the comparison that not asking meant you weren't caring and then smack in there an YMMV when that's not at all what was being talked about.