He and Nicky were definitely the #1, total innocent victims etc.; however I don't think the mom was ever not a victim...nor the kids really. Those years and years of abuse tainted her reality, which is pretty common. She saw herself as weak, worthless, just a burden etc., so there was no way for her to look past that. You could see the paranoia anytime there was talk about her going to visit and obviously when she did. To us it seems so unreasonable and like paranoia, but to her it was very real and stunted any ability of her to have a real mother/grandmother son/grandkid relationship in many ways and especially in PA.In no way am I suggesting that it was or is easy. I’m just saying that none of that was Jack’s fault. He was a victim. He had his own struggles once out of it, so it’s unfair to put the responsibility of a relationship on him. He called. He stayed in touch.
I do agree with you that neither of them really hav÷ much blame in their situation of not seeing each other. Both were coping and functioning the best they could.