Princesca
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- Jun 14, 2011
My son just turned two, and he was playing in the same general space as a cousin who's about to turn one. The one year old is obsessed with following my son around, and my son is used to playing pretty independently. He is at a stage where he's protective of his toys, and we're working on the concept of sharing, but this is all developmentally appropriate interaction for his age. Anyway, the one year old keeps coming up on my son and trying to take his toys and just generally being handsy (as one year olds are wont to be) and my son is guarding. Not pushing, but putting an arm out defensively to keep the one year old at a distance. He did kind of lightly hip-check him at one point when he was crowding him, which knocked the one year old over, and I told him that 'that hurts baby, see how sad he is?' Baby was crying, but not hurt. But my son is too young to get it, and is very rarely around kids younger than him so he doesn't understand their capabilities, so there's not much I can do at this point but remove him from the situation, which I have been doing. The baby keeps following, though, so really, I think it's the baby that needs to be contained if my sister in law is so concerned about this.
My issue is with my sister in law who was fussing at my son, even when the potential was there but he hadn't done anything yet. In my opinion, both the children were behaving entirely appropriately for their ages, and I also believe that this is how kids learn to navigate shared spaces together. If they were brothers, and you fussed at the older one every time these instances happen, you'd have chronic laryngitis. But he is her only child, and I'm chalking this up to that fact plus the fact that he's only one and I think we were all overprotective at that stage.
I guess I'm just venting. I generally think that people should leave the reprimanding and discipline to the parents, if they are present, and she has spent hardly any time with our son over the first two years of his life, so I don't feel like it's her right to criticize his behavior to him when we are there and acting on it.
I suppose I'm really the overprotective one, but the 'mama bear' in me is really grumpy right now. Unlike this emoji bear.
My issue is with my sister in law who was fussing at my son, even when the potential was there but he hadn't done anything yet. In my opinion, both the children were behaving entirely appropriately for their ages, and I also believe that this is how kids learn to navigate shared spaces together. If they were brothers, and you fussed at the older one every time these instances happen, you'd have chronic laryngitis. But he is her only child, and I'm chalking this up to that fact plus the fact that he's only one and I think we were all overprotective at that stage.
I guess I'm just venting. I generally think that people should leave the reprimanding and discipline to the parents, if they are present, and she has spent hardly any time with our son over the first two years of his life, so I don't feel like it's her right to criticize his behavior to him when we are there and acting on it.
I suppose I'm really the overprotective one, but the 'mama bear' in me is really grumpy right now. Unlike this emoji bear.