LONG VENT HERE. PASS BY IF YOU WANT.
Oh I could just hurt my MIL!!!! She has done some nasty things in her life (and I'm talking major child abuse here), but I've never seen my husband as hurt as he is right now!!!
I think I told you all a while ago that she got engaged right before our niece's death to her potential husband number 6. She met him online, then met him in person and after they had known each other (face to face) for about 2 days they got engaged. We were all concerned about how this marriage is going to affect our kids. Well, before we could express our concerns to her, she sent an email to all the kids announcing her marriage. She didn't give anyone enough time to make it to the ceremony, not forgetting that it was just 1 day after Carissa's funeral! Talk about being blindsided. We all know that the reason she didn't tell us in time to make it to the ceremony is so that she can call us ungrateful and hateful children. Emotional abuse is her specialty.
She wouldn't take any phone calls right after her wedding, so Alan emailed her to wish her well, and to express our concerns about our children calling this new man "grandpa" since none of them know him. We asked for a period of time where he could be called Mr. Garrard, or Bob if he wanted, until we could see that the marriage was going to last. In my kids short lives they have lost 4 "grandpas" with her. One to death (Alan's father) and 3 to divorce. It's just too much to ask kids to emotionally bond with someone who may or may not be there in 9 months (that's a typical marriage for her since Alan's dad died).
At first, her husband was very understanding, but apparently she whipped him into a frenzy, telling him half truths and outright lies. Last week, we got an email from them telling us what horrible people we are to treat Bob like a child molester. Don't we care about his feelings, etc., etc. We emailed back reiterating that we hope their marriage is long lasting, but we have to watch out for the welfare of our children first. She is a grown woman and could look out for herself, but our kids need us to advocate for them. She called Alan and told him that she guessed that she understood, and was looking forward to our nephews wedding tomorrow to put the "new rules" into effect. They worked out what the kids would call Bob, and Alan said, "this will only work if you play by the rules. No going behind our backs to the kids about "grandpa." She has done this to my BIL's 4 year old daughter and told her that her parents are evil for not allowing her (Mattie ) to have a new grandpa. So, Bob would be her "secret" grandpa.
We just got an email from her stating that due to our unbending attitude they will not be coming to the wedding, and we are seriously jeopardizing the future of her marriage to Bob. She told Alan he is a sad excuse for a son, and she is disappointed that he learned nothing about love from her. She also told him that since they want nothing to do with us that she will leave guardianship of her mentally handicapped daughter with Alan. Her words, "Marci can be your problem. Let's see how well you do with her!"
I could just rip her eyes out!!!!! Thanks for letting me vent!
And found a pair of bike shorts for her to wear under it so she can twirl to her hearts content.
for you and Alan. What a horrible mom he has.
Also I mailed a check on Wed. so hopefully you get it soon.
Did I read that right!? 
