Gumbo4x4
Note to the ladies who forgot to
- Joined
- Jan 19, 2012
I've seen that too... but to be fair, abuse isn't the only form of mistreatment and women my age often feel very taken advantage of, especially if the division of household and child-rearing responsibilities is very out of balance (as studies show it still is most of the time). Most of the middle aged women I know who left basically good men did so after years of feeling like a doormat or a household servant and many futile attempts to agitate for a better balance at home, and they did so not out of any sense of midlife crisis but because they got through years and years by thinking "It'll get easier when... (the baby sleeps through the night/the kids are potty trained/the youngest starts school/the oldest can help with the driving) and finally realized it isn't going to change.
I know the household division of labor is still not equal in many homes, but I also know many women who take on the martyr role, insisting on doing the job and then complaining that they have "no help". And if that's really the reason they're leaving, perhaps some therapy for them both is a better choice than divorce.
Because even if she's doing 100% of the household chores now, she's still doing 100% when she's on her own.