badblackpug
<font color=blue>If you knew her you would be shoc
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- Oct 18, 2005
My kids are far apart in age, too. I have 2 teens, and 2 preschoolers, and a husband that works odd hours. I don't always have the time to stay, or other kids have activities. I can't leave the 4 year old alone at ballet, but I can leave the 12 year old at football.
Sometimes I drop off, and take the little kids home, and then husband picks up the big kid. Sometimes they get rides with other parents. Sometimes I use the time to run errands.
The OP is never going to get an honest answer from her daughter. The poor kid is stuck in the middle. She won't act enthusiastic about playing (even if she is) because her mother has made it clear it's a burden to her and the rest of the family. She won't quit (even if she wants to) because she knows her father wants her to play, and will be disappointed if she doesn't.
If there is something one of our kids want to do, we try everything possible to make it happen. Of course, none of my kids are really into anything super competitive or "elite level." Our kids do activities for fun. I'm not sure I want my kids involved in anything "elite level."
Sometimes I drop off, and take the little kids home, and then husband picks up the big kid. Sometimes they get rides with other parents. Sometimes I use the time to run errands.
The OP is never going to get an honest answer from her daughter. The poor kid is stuck in the middle. She won't act enthusiastic about playing (even if she is) because her mother has made it clear it's a burden to her and the rest of the family. She won't quit (even if she wants to) because she knows her father wants her to play, and will be disappointed if she doesn't.
If there is something one of our kids want to do, we try everything possible to make it happen. Of course, none of my kids are really into anything super competitive or "elite level." Our kids do activities for fun. I'm not sure I want my kids involved in anything "elite level."