Did you ask about a Chewy visit?
Yeah, it’s a no go. I’m also not allowed to spend the night. Well, they said they wouldn’t tell me no but it is strongly discouraged.
I haven’t been up to see him, he said he’s not really up for a visit. I want to listen to him but I also want to force my way in and demand he talk to me. We did talk for half an hour on the phone and that’s a new record..maybe even from when we first met LOL
I have a dr appt tomorrow afternoon and then I’ll head to the hospital for the evening.
A social worker from the hospital called today and I’m going to meet with him for about an hour on Thursday. I’m hoping I can convince this guy that Richard needs some long term, one on one help. I’m not going to spill all his mental health issues here but he suffers. A lot.
I think I’ve given up the hope that he’ll be home for Christmas or our anniversary. I know I have to stay positive for him, and I am when I’m talking to him, but in private I’m so scared. What if he never leaves the hospital? What happens if he comes home but we have to get a full time nurse for him? We can’t afford anything like that and his coverage from work all has limits. A private duty nurse is capped at $5000. That will get us what, a week?
Ok, deep breath..
Thank you everyone for the jokes. I am writing them down to take up to him. Maybe he won’t laugh but I’ll get a nurse at least.
Got the ambulance bill today..$340 for a 15 minute ride! Good thing we can be reimbursed but we have to pay first.
That’s all I have for now.
Yeah, it’s a no go. I’m also not allowed to spend the night. Well, they said they wouldn’t tell me no but it is strongly discouraged.
I haven’t been up to see him, he said he’s not really up for a visit. I want to listen to him but I also want to force my way in and demand he talk to me. We did talk for half an hour on the phone and that’s a new record..maybe even from when we first met LOL
I have a dr appt tomorrow afternoon and then I’ll head to the hospital for the evening.
A social worker from the hospital called today and I’m going to meet with him for about an hour on Thursday. I’m hoping I can convince this guy that Richard needs some long term, one on one help. I’m not going to spill all his mental health issues here but he suffers. A lot.
I think I’ve given up the hope that he’ll be home for Christmas or our anniversary. I know I have to stay positive for him, and I am when I’m talking to him, but in private I’m so scared. What if he never leaves the hospital? What happens if he comes home but we have to get a full time nurse for him? We can’t afford anything like that and his coverage from work all has limits. A private duty nurse is capped at $5000. That will get us what, a week?
Ok, deep breath..
Thank you everyone for the jokes. I am writing them down to take up to him. Maybe he won’t laugh but I’ll get a nurse at least.
Got the ambulance bill today..$340 for a 15 minute ride! Good thing we can be reimbursed but we have to pay first.
That’s all I have for now.
Hugs and positive thoughts to you. I've been following along, but not posting. I want to agree with others that you should absolutely take a family member with you to that meeting. You may want to also ask if you can record it on your phone, just so that you can go back and reference later. I think lovemygoofy is likely right--you're probably looking at a longer term care facility before he would even think about coming home. I previously worked on an acute rehab unit in a hospital here in the states, and frequently, staff would do a home visit to determine if home is set up and ready or set-up-able for someone with your husband's needs before they would make that move. He will probably need intensive OT and PT to regain flexibility and strength--this would happen either in a skilled nursing facility or on an acute rehab unit within a hospital. Take a breath--this is all new territory, but you've totally got this. Just make sure you are using your support resources (family, friends, etc.)...sorry, I'm a psychologist...
's You're strong, Kim.Tomorrow’s got a lot going on. A neurologist appointment, my 20 year since diagnosis date, going to see Richard, and it’s been two weeks since this all started.
Really?Dan, in all the years on the DIS I've never known you to share a joke!!! Very good, sir!!
Kim, if many of us are sharing jokes, all must be getting better especially for Richard. May he have the joy of at least a chuckle.
Yeah, it’s a no go. I’m also not allowed to spend the night. Well, they said they wouldn’t tell me no but it is strongly discouraged.
I haven’t been up to see him, he said he’s not really up for a visit. I want to listen to him but I also want to force my way in and demand he talk to me. We did talk for half an hour on the phone and that’s a new record..maybe even from when we first met LOL
I have a dr appt tomorrow afternoon and then I’ll head to the hospital for the evening.
A social worker from the hospital called today and I’m going to meet with him for about an hour on Thursday. I’m hoping I can convince this guy that Richard needs some long term, one on one help. I’m not going to spill all his mental health issues here but he suffers. A lot.
I think I’ve given up the hope that he’ll be home for Christmas or our anniversary. I know I have to stay positive for him, and I am when I’m talking to him, but in private I’m so scared. What if he never leaves the hospital? What happens if he comes home but we have to get a full time nurse for him? We can’t afford anything like that and his coverage from work all has limits. A private duty nurse is capped at $5000. That will get us what, a week?
Ok, deep breath..
Thank you everyone for the jokes. I am writing them down to take up to him. Maybe he won’t laugh but I’ll get a nurse at least.
Got the ambulance bill today..$340 for a 15 minute ride! Good thing we can be reimbursed but we have to pay first.
That’s all I have for now.
...A social worker from the hospital called today and I’m going to meet with him for about an hour on Thursday. I’m hoping I can convince this guy that Richard needs some long term, one on one help. I’m not going to spill all his mental health issues here but he suffers. A lot.
I think I’ve given up the hope that he’ll be home for Christmas or our anniversary. I know I have to stay positive for him, and I am when I’m talking to him, but in private I’m so scared. What if he never leaves the hospital? What happens if he comes home but we have to get a full time nurse for him? We can’t afford anything like that and his coverage from work all has limits. A private duty nurse is capped at $5000. That will get us what, a week?
Ok, deep breath..
Thank you everyone for the jokes. I am writing them down to take up to him. Maybe he won’t laugh but I’ll get a nurse at least.
Got the ambulance bill today..$340 for a 15 minute ride! Good thing we can be reimbursed but we have to pay first...
Many, many things are not included in public health care and we need either private supplemental insurance or we pay OOP. This includes ambulance service, prescription meds, all dental and vision care, physiotherapy, chiropractic care, midwifery, counselling and therapy and probably a million more things.Sorry to hear about the bills. I didn't realize you paid anything up front in Canada.
Definitely talk to the social worker about setting up some mental health support!
I'm glad you have a list for the meeting, and that your DD was able to cheer you up last night, and I am loving the Star Wars jokes - I bet Richard will too!
Hang in there
Many, many things are not included in public health care and we need either private supplemental insurance or we pay OOP. This includes ambulance service, prescription meds, all dental and vision care, physiotherapy, chiropractic care, midwifery, counselling and therapy and probably a million more things.
I just talked to my mom and she is going to come with me on Thursday. She’s like me, or more accurate I’m like her, and we will both be very dialed in to the meeting. She’ll have a list of questions just like I will and will make sure I understand the plan going forward.
Maybe I’m 100% wrong but I’m under the impression that Richard will stay in the hospital until he’s ready to come home. Things may have changed though since the last time I talked to a doctor. I’ve never dealt with anyone in a situation like this before so I don’t really know. I’ve been kinda looking to see what’s available for rent in terms of a house with no stairs. Or, at least, a bedroom and bathroom on the main floor. If need be, he can come home here and we can put a bed in the front room.
I’m not going to think too far ahead, but, I like knowing the path so I can start preparing for it. I’m not a big fan of flying by the seat of your pants.
Tomorrow’s got a lot going on. A neurologist appointment, my 20 year since diagnosis date, going to see Richard, and it’s been two weeks since this all started.
My Jets play tonight so it will be a good distraction for a few hours.
We watched RuPauls Drag Race when she was home..we’d binge a season in two days lol and when she put her glasses on, it covered her real eyebrows and she just looked like the start of a drag transformation.
Many, many things are not included in public health care and we need either private supplemental insurance or we pay OOP. This includes ambulance service, prescription meds, all dental and vision care, physiotherapy, chiropractic care, midwifery, counselling and therapy and probably a million more things.
No updated yet, I just thought I’d share a story. Does it ever happen to you that you think about something or hear something and it just makes your heart hurt in a good way? Like it’s the embodiment of being hit in the feels? This story did that to me..
My sister and her kids came over the other night for dinner and movies. It was a great distraction. While she was here we got talking about Christmas and I mentioned to her that depending on things go with Richard, I might not be at Christmas dinner at her house.
She mentioned that she had been talking to my mom and my mom told her that if Richard is able to, we’ll get a day pass for him and she’ll just have Christmas dinner with her and my dad, just so it’s not too overwhelming for him. It’s so simple but the fact that she’s thinking like that just makes me feel really loved and supported. I know I am very lucky to be close with all my family. If I asked anyone for a kidney, they’d be in line the same day. I’d do it for them, too. In fact, (sorry for the ramble) when my uncle was still alive and going through liver failure due to hepatitis one thing thrown around was for a liver transplant. I would have been a perfect match, but my neurologist didn’t want me to do it due to my ms.
Anyway, I just wanted to share that story and talk to someone for a minute or two lol
Kim, it's a great story and something to seriously consider. It's not just the body that needs to heal but the soul/ spirit too. Having visitors or a short day out of the hospital can do so much for the mind and body when it come to healing.
My DH's Nana aka Great Nana had back surgery mid November 2017. She was supposed to be out 3 weeks later. Ended up not being the case and she got out in March 2018. She's 86. We all did see her as a family, all 8 of us, Christmas Day after clearing it with the doctor, we brought her a plate of all her favourites from dinner and met her at the cafeteria for dinner. The girls helped her unwrap her gifts. Doctor said it did so much for her spirit and drive to do her rehab exercises to see all the girls. We as individual families had gone to visit her in her room previously, she got to show off her great granddaughters to her roommate and the girls had her wall decorated with Christmas artwork to cheer her up.