Social media. The kids are not alright.
It's not only social media.
I have an 12 year old suicidal nephew. He is not even on any social media and only got a phone a few months ago. He was suicidal before that.
Social media. The kids are not alright.
Agree. It's honestly so many things. At the top of my head: healthcare, basic human rights, the housing market, the economy, the possibility of a good retirement, climate crisis, future job security, the cost of college, teens and preteens on social media convincing each other that liking ppl their age makes them sexual predators (yes really), liking a cartoon makes them sexual predators (I wish I was joking), lack of safe (and accesible) spaces for them to hang out offline AND online ... I could keep going.It's not only social media.
I have an 12 year old suicidal nephew. He is not even on any social media and only got a phone a few months ago. He was suicidal before that.
Parents are using screens as babysitters. Every parent for the last 50 years has done that. The only difference is that when I sat my child is front of the TV to watch "Sesame Street", I knew she was watching Sesame Street. Parents are handing kids devices or letting them retreat to their rooms with computers and have absolutely no idea what these kids are watching. Kids are stumbling upon things that are completely inappropriate for their age, and thereby becoming desensitized to lots of very adult content.Probably better not to start on the conspiracy theories here folks. Lockdown did indeed hurt ppl, but disease hurts them too. Can we all just agree it was a no win situation no matter what happened and leave it at that?
I do want to comment on the too much screen time, while I do agree. Has anyone here ever question why parents allow it? If someone has to work 2 jobs to make ends meet, of course they cannot control everything their child watches or does. Not saying it's the situation for everyone, some parents are just neglectful, but lets not assume the worst of every parent.
For sure, some out of laziness and some out of necessity.Parents are using screens as babysitters. Every parent for the last 50 years has done that. The only difference is that when I sat my child is front of the TV to watch "Sesame Street", I knew she was watching Sesame Street. Parents are handing kids devices or letting them retreat to their rooms with computers and have absolutely no idea what these kids are watching. Kids are stumbling upon things that are completely inappropriate for their age, and thereby becoming desensitized to lots of very adult content.
This is (sadly) interesting. Is he bullied at school by social media/phone addicts? Do they think it is chemical?It's not only social media.
I have an 12 year old suicidal nephew. He is not even on any social media and only got a phone a few months ago. He was suicidal before that.
This is (sadly) interesting. Is he bullied at school by social media/phone addicts? Do they think it is chemical?
12 years old. Very heartbreaking.
I'm guessing they meant chemical imbalance in the brain? Though Google tells me that now they believe that isn't really a thing, but I definitely remember it from antidepressant ads from years back.Chemical? What do you mean by that? He might be bullied, but he has denied that.
Part of growing up is figuring out who you are and learning to conform based on what the education systems says you should be. And then doing this as both your mind and body develop.Chemical? What do you mean by that? He might be bullied, but he has denied that.
This kid has always been anxious, even as a toddler. He was barely able to sleep through the night in his room by himself. Always ended up on the floor next to my sister's bed, all the way up to now. He is an only child. At 12, after a traumatic experience last December (sudden violent loss of his dog) he is back in his parents room on an air mattress, full time. He is an only child. This, to me, speaks to a serious underlying issue.
I have my suspicions about what is going on with him. When he was 2-4, he loved Disney princesses, wanted to always dress as a girl, paint his nails, had a Pink Disney Princess bathroom, wanted to grow his hair long "like Rapunzel", loved to sing and perform for his family, etc. His parents encouraged it, supported it, etc. When he started Kindergarten, his parents seemingly put the squash on ALL of that, redecorated his bathroom, pulled all the princess art off tye walls, and suddenly he "loved" Star Wars and sports and all the typical boy things. And the light went out from his eyes. He adopted a flat affect. He tried ALL the sports. Didn't like any of them. Never had a close friend until he was 8, a boy who he told me was "a total sweetheart." They were best friends for 3 years, then he moved away. Then he started Middle School. And it has been a disaster. He was physically sick in the mornings with anxiety. He was not making friends. He was overwhelmed with the change from elementary school (multiple classes, multiple teachers, a block schedule). He just didn't adjust well at ALL. At this point, my sister FINALLY seemed to figure out he needed therapy. But she didn't do anything to get that started. Then, in December, his 7 year old dog, his best friend, was hit by a car and killed. Later that day, he told his parents "I wish it had been me instead." THAT is what finally lit the fire under my sister to get him in with a therapist. This kid needed therapy YEARS ago. My sister is a teacher. She is a smart person, but she has no common sense and is very stubborn sometimes. I told my mom several years ago that I was worried about my nephew and feared he would become suicidal. My mom agreed with me. We all saw it. My sister is the "everything is fine" type. She probably sees this as a parenting failure and didn't want to face that.
I think my nephew is unsure about who he is, or who he wants to be. I think the early message he received from his parents was "you can be who you want inside these 4 walls, but not when it's time to go out into the world." It's very sad. I think this child is definitely somewhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and has parents who OUTWARDLY support this when it comes to other people, but who have sent mixed messages to their own child about it. He is still very sheltered, immature, and naive at 12, so I'm not even sure how much of this he even fully understands himself, but it seems clear that he is deeply unhappy. His best friends are his younger cousins (2 amd 4 years younger), and he doesn't seem to have strong social connections at school.
I'm hopeful that he will eventually figure out who he is and what makes him happy.
Sorry, I meant chemical imbalance.Chemical? What do you mean by that? He might be bullied, but he has denied that.
My goodness. This is so heartbreaking. I wish parents would love and accept their children as they are.Chemical? What do you mean by that? He might be bullied, but he has denied that.
This kid has always been anxious, even as a toddler. He was barely able to sleep through the night in his room by himself. Always ended up on the floor next to my sister's bed, all the way up to now. He is an only child. At 12, after a traumatic experience last December (sudden violent loss of his dog) he is back in his parents room on an air mattress, full time. He is an only child. This, to me, speaks to a serious underlying issue.
I have my suspicions about what is going on with him. When he was 2-4, he loved Disney princesses, wanted to always dress as a girl, paint his nails, had a Pink Disney Princess bathroom, wanted to grow his hair long "like Rapunzel", loved to sing and perform for his family, etc. His parents encouraged it, supported it, etc. When he started Kindergarten, his parents seemingly put the squash on ALL of that, redecorated his bathroom, pulled all the princess art off tye walls, and suddenly he "loved" Star Wars and sports and all the typical boy things. And the light went out from his eyes. He adopted a flat affect. He tried ALL the sports. Didn't like any of them. Never had a close friend until he was 8, a boy who he told me was "a total sweetheart." They were best friends for 3 years, then he moved away. Then he started Middle School. And it has been a disaster. He was physically sick in the mornings with anxiety. He was not making friends. He was overwhelmed with the change from elementary school (multiple classes, multiple teachers, a block schedule). He just didn't adjust well at ALL. At this point, my sister FINALLY seemed to figure out he needed therapy. But she didn't do anything to get that started. Then, in December, his 7 year old dog, his best friend, was hit by a car and killed. Later that day, he told his parents "I wish it had been me instead." THAT is what finally lit the fire under my sister to get him in with a therapist. This kid needed therapy YEARS ago. My sister is a teacher. She is a smart person, but she has no common sense and is very stubborn sometimes. I told my mom several years ago that I was worried about my nephew and feared he would become suicidal. My mom agreed with me. We all saw it. My sister is the "everything is fine" type. She probably sees this as a parenting failure and didn't want to face that.
I think my nephew is unsure about who he is, or who he wants to be. I think the early message he received from his parents was "you can be who you want inside these 4 walls, but not when it's time to go out into the world." It's very sad. I think this child is definitely somewhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and has parents who OUTWARDLY support this when it comes to other people, but who have sent mixed messages to their own child about it. He is still very sheltered, immature, and naive at 12, so I'm not even sure how much of this he even fully understands himself, but it seems clear that he is deeply unhappy. His best friends are his younger cousins (2 amd 4 years younger), and he doesn't seem to have strong social connections at school.
I'm hopeful that he will eventually figure out who he is and what makes him happy.