As for age, I didnt make myself very clear in my post. I have no idea how old this lady was. My very best guess is she couldnt have been over 27, couldnt have been under 20.
Ive met women I thought were 19 who turned out to be 28. Ive met 35-year-olds (my best buddys fiancé, who also has a child, for example) who I wouldve guessed as being 24. She looks 24
or even younger. When people meet me they think Im under 25.
If I tell you Im 30, would you think thats bad? Depends on where youre from and your background I suppose.
She very likely couldve been 25-26. But if I say I thought she looked 26, and she turned out to be 21
and she somehow, by some miracle, reads my post
its possible Ive just insulted her by insinuating she looks 5 years older than she is. Now Im not looking for a 21-year-old, but if she were interested, and shes really awesome, its not necessarily a deal-breaker. Depends on how mature she is. And I certainly wouldnt want her to think I thought she looks 5 years older than she is.
Truth is, 23 is a safe guess. She couldve been 23
and if shes 21 she wont be insulted, and if shes 26, maybe shell be flattered. I really dont know. Ive got nothing to go off of here. Im trying not to drown.
I just want to talk to the magic lady haha.
I was working on a trade show floor recently, and I was approached by a woman regarding business. She was very cute, and my rapport with her was fantastic. She was adorable and fascinating. I couldve probably asked her out and enjoyed her company over a nice dinner. But something kept going through my head. How old is she? My gut said about 24, she could be older... but my paranoid side said maybe she was as young as 18. So I assumed about 21, but not confidently. I literally couldnt tell. So I kept it professional, got a business card because thats how the show floor works in my business, was cordial, and I basically sent her on her way.
I came home to do my post-trade show follow-ups and research. I stopped by her web site. I see her age. Shes 25. I sent her away because I couldnt tell. Being thirty and single in this modern age can be a tough, confusing cookie sometimes. People often dont look, act, or dress their age.
Ive found that a pack-a-day smoker who sits on a couch drinking and eating Doritos daily at age 22 can look many years older than a 35 year old who eats well and exercises regularly. Like I said, my buddys fiancé, youd think she was in her early twenties.
Another example. I was on an airplane about 4 years ago. And I was seated next to a young lady who I had pegged for probably 21-22. She was reading a book that was beyond my level. She had cleavage spilling out of her top. And very adult-style clothing. Slight wrinkle smile lines, and a slight wrinkle line across her forehead. I struck up a conversation. She spoke at my level. Ten minutes later, it turned out she was freaking 17. You can imagine my horrified embarrassment and apologies. Id never in a million years knowingly approach a 17 year old, or even an 18 year old for that matter. Its embarrassing to even type.
I was always taught its rude to come right out and ask a woman her age.
This mystery lady at Disneyland- Without her family there I mightve guessed her at 22-26. But with what might have been her siblings there, (I dont know if they even were,) I assumed maybe more towards 23, definitely in her 20s somewhere.
However, I once had a roommate in college who was 22, and he had a 10-year-old little brother. So technically, the siblings tell you nothing. I really have no basis for the 23 guess, and pegging her at that age or younger might actually be hurting my cause. But again, her siblings looked young. Maybe they were her cousins or something. My cousins are ten years younger than me, and Ive gone to WDW with them multiple times. No clue.
A few months back, when I was hanging out with those younger cousins, I had someone tell me they thought I looked 20.
So for anyone thinking this mystery lady might potentially be a bit young for me, consider this. If I were to dismiss every single female who could potentially be a bit young for me, Id be missing a lot of cool, mature women in the 23-28 range, and in my experience, a very, very high percentage of women try to get married by the time theyre 25-28.
Im just looking for someone who meshes with me. Makes me melt, but also jibes with my personality. This one made me absolutely melt with her eyes, and blew my mind with her appearing/disappearing act on main street. I felt an electric current. But some of you are right: Is the jibe there? Again, no clue. I want to know.
Ive watched old girlfriends get married and have kids. Since I work with only my brother, and most of my friends are either scattered across the country or married, I dont get hooked up often, and I dont have dozens of women in my life.
I see the same women over and over at the gym, the bike trail has been no good for meeting, and I have a major ethical problem with hitting on women while theyre working, like a salesperson, cashier, or waitress. They shouldnt have to deal with guys hitting on them while they try to work and earn a living. Maybe thats a stupid way to be.
So Im left with basically bars, which are dead ends, or internet dating, which for me personally takes all the magic out of the process. Magic is my favorite part; I have a hard time believing in it, but I want to. I want to find someone in a special way. Have a great story. Find actual storybook romance and not sift through online catalogs, or go from woman to woman trying to push myself on someone till one sticks. People find the loves of their lives that way, but its not what Im after. Maybe thats why Im alone.
My brother is 29. His girlfriend and he are talking about marriage. Shes 23. And they have just about the best relationship Ive ever seen. They are both mature, respectful, awesome people. She works with disabled and handicapped folks, as well as people with autism, and hes my super-dedicated, kind, respectful business partner, whose dream is philanthropy. Their dream together is to create a non-profit organization to help underprivileged kids. I cant say enough about how well they compliment each other, with a six-plus year age difference.
They once told me they never even thought about the age thing, though her protective father had a slight issue with it. Of course now her dad loves him.
I was set up on a date with a 20-year-old last year. It was kinda strange, but the matchmaker insisted. Although it didnt pan out, she was smart, fun, and responsible. She was a little immature in certain ways though. I was also set up with a 35-year-old recently. She wasnt very bright, was obnoxious, wore teenagers clothing that was two sizes too small- (to the point that she was bursting out her top,) had a tongue ring she bragged about using regularly, and wanted to drink and party all weekend, every weekend. Neither were right for me, but in this case the 20 year old was more grown up than the 35 year old. You really never can really tell, until you get to know someone a bit. Some people are 25 going on 50, some are 40 going on 16.
So Ive got to cast a wide net. And a moment like that one on Main Street, in my favorite place
I just cant ignore it. Cant let it go without a fight. It was utter perfection. Like I said, magic. Not because I wanted it to be, but because it just was.
Im posting this stuff because I simply want to know more, have the chance to see what her deal was; the chance that I missed.
If it sounds like Im defensive, I just needed to explain, because some people would judge me for being thirty and looking at this mystery woman- who could easily be either in her early or mid twenties. Thats why I just desperately want to find a way to talk to her. Find out. Is she mature? Cool? Where is she from? How old is she? Were those folks her parents? Siblings? Cousins? What was she doing in Anaheim? Wheres she from? Was the spark real? How on earth did she happen to end up next to me on Main Street? Where did she go? I dont know. And Ill probably never know. And I hate that. Because for a second it was pure magic.
Sorry for the length of this message and the one before it. I wanted to explain fully. And of course, thank you, sincerely, for once again taking the time to read my post.
To all the wonderful and encouraging posters, you are truly rad.
All the best,
Joe
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