jaiminee krikit
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- May 23, 2013
DD14 held my hand until about 4 years ago. Everywhere. That is way too young to not at least be next to a parent.
Of course not. I've seen it happen and yes I judge and in my mind rightfully so. It infuriates me when I see adults show a complete lack of regard for the well-being of an unknowing child.Yesterday we were waiting for the brewery in Frankenmuth to open (at 11 a.m.) so we could have an early lunch and have our DD and her DH's growlers filled so we were just sitting in the car as we still had a few minutes to go.
We were facing the road and as the town is a tourist area there was "people watching" involved. There was a young couple with a toddler, he looked around 2 years old. They were letting him walk behind them. Actually the woman was first, then her husband/boyfriend, then the child. The woman never looked back, but the man did a couple times, I guess to make sure the child was still following.
I cringed because the road is busy, and with some truck traffic too. I would never in a million years allow a child that young to walk behind me. He would be walking WITH me, holding my hand tightly, or he would be carried or in a stroller. The couple didn't have their eyes on the child most of the time, he could have decided to run out into the road and it could have been tragic.
So, if you have a young child do you allow them to walk behind you on the sidewalk? The street was 4 (or 5, can't remember if there was a left turn lane or not) lanes and lots of traffic. Lots of stores, gift shops, restaurants, etc.
Barring any developmental delays, requiring a 10yo to hold your hand "everywhere" is ridiculous.DD14 held my hand until about 4 years ago. Everywhere. That is way too young to not at least be next to a parent.
DD14 held my hand until about 4 years ago. Everywhere. That is way too young to not at least be next to a parent.
Barring any developmental delays, requiring a 10yo to hold your hand "everywhere" is ridiculous.
Um...
At age 10, was she holding your hand because she wanted to? Or because you required it?
By age 10, my kids were capable of going to the neighbourhood store alone and picking up groceries for me. They were capable of getting on public transit and going to the local pool with friends. My son had his own paper route. They could stay home alone for short periods. And they were definitely capable of walking down the sidewalk without holding my hand. My son had given up hand-holding years earlier.
Though, to be fair, my daughter did often choose to hold my hand, simply because she's an affectionate sort of person. She's 21 now and still sometimes reaches out to hold my hand, or her father's hand.
So, what kind of hand-holding are you talking about? The "I love my parents!" hand holding, or the "I must hold my child's hand to keep them from darting into traffic!" kind of hand holding?
Mine, too. That's why I asked for clarification.I never said I require it. I said she still did it. And I've seen kids even older than that who should be holding their parents hand just to keep them in line.
It was more because she actually wanted to because she was used to it. I didn't force it and she would insist. My 10 year old knew better than to dart into traffic. And even at 14 she will also occasionally still reach for my hand.
I'll just leave this here.