In case anyone missed it -- "What Meghan wants Meghan gets" has simply been repeatedly published based off unknown sources. Since every single case of inflammatory language based off of details that are either incorrect or did not happen have not been specifically refuted by the RF, there is no substantiation that this statement was made, or indeed under what circumstances it may or may not have been said.
Purely for discussion let's agree that it was said. What was the context? Is there any room for the possibility that during wedding planning discussions a groom who isn't super up to speed, particularly interested in the minutiae of the details, or feeling overwhelmed by all the decision making made a comment to jokingly reflect that his bride would be the better one to ask and chose the words "What Meghan wants Meghan gets" to express the fact he didn't have a clue about what was being discussed? Easy for a staffer with an agenda to take that to the press, knowing the royals "never complain, never explain". Or could the comment have been overheard by someone not in the conversation, not understanding it was a joke and sincerely believe Harry was serious?
Let's stick with the idea Harry did say it, but let's view it from the perspective that he meant it in a serious manner. Did he say it because he felt the RF protocols were dominating and edging the bride completely out of her own wedding, or maybe he knew Meghan had initially discussed some ideas with him that were all shut down by TPTB and he was making a stand for her to get some detail to reflect her vision? Was this one of the first displays of someone for whom a wife and a child were triggering trauma from his childhood and clouding his judgment and reactions, making him feel everyone is out to get his wife/child? Was Meghan simply of the idea that the bride who's marrying a prince should get a wedding fit for a princess and everybody bow down, with her prince clearing the field for her?
I'll stick with my salt shaker when it comes to "What Meghan wants Meghan gets". Simply because it's been repeatedly reported isn't conclusive in my book.