Had2stopLurking
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- Feb 2, 2010
Moderators, if you feel this is OT, please delete the thread rather than send it to the wolves on the community board, haha.
We have friends that have 2 daughters, one is 8, the other is 4. We have taken the 8 year old to DL with us 3 times this past year (we paid for her flights, hotel, food, AP, ect).
The 8 year old is a great student and well behaved child. The 4 year old is, well, spoiled beyond belief. It's like night and day between the two of them. I frequently take both of them overnight on the weekends to stay at our house and the 4 year old is a TERROR and cries when it's her bedtime because I refuse to giver her a sippie cup of milk to comfort her like she gets at home. Please keep in mind, this child has had 4 teeth pulled due to rotting from sour milk, and I refuse to participate in that. The mother is on board with my stance, but the father is not. He thinks if she wants it and will make her stop crying, then give it to her.
Anyway, to make a long story relatively short, we want to take the 8 year old to Disney again twice this year with us (we go more often, but enjoy her company completely and love taking her with us when it's possible). The father has said if we don't take both, then we can't take the older one.
I personally don't think that's fair to the older one nor to us. I can't imagine being 1000 miles from home and having the younger one having a breakdown at Disney. The older one had a breakdown ONCE in three trips (about 4 nights each time) and that was OUR fault for allowing her to eat fruit for breakfast, mac and cheese for lunch, and pizza for dinner (so basically all carbs) and it triggered a migraine in her. Needless to say, we learned to make sure she ate a lot of proteins in her diet the next few days and it was fine, haha.
We have promised to take the younger one in a few years if she can adjust her behavior, but, right now with the way she behaves, it doesn't look promising. Please don't think that I don't love the younger one just as much; as that is NOT the case. We try to take the younger one by herself without the older one to do stuff around here, but, just not on a trip to Disney.
I guess I just wonder what others would do? The mother and I already promised the older one trips this year for good grades/behavior, ect. Now we're at a loss. I feel like we're punishing the older one for the behavior of her sister if we don't take her. Ugh.
We have friends that have 2 daughters, one is 8, the other is 4. We have taken the 8 year old to DL with us 3 times this past year (we paid for her flights, hotel, food, AP, ect).
The 8 year old is a great student and well behaved child. The 4 year old is, well, spoiled beyond belief. It's like night and day between the two of them. I frequently take both of them overnight on the weekends to stay at our house and the 4 year old is a TERROR and cries when it's her bedtime because I refuse to giver her a sippie cup of milk to comfort her like she gets at home. Please keep in mind, this child has had 4 teeth pulled due to rotting from sour milk, and I refuse to participate in that. The mother is on board with my stance, but the father is not. He thinks if she wants it and will make her stop crying, then give it to her.
Anyway, to make a long story relatively short, we want to take the 8 year old to Disney again twice this year with us (we go more often, but enjoy her company completely and love taking her with us when it's possible). The father has said if we don't take both, then we can't take the older one.
I personally don't think that's fair to the older one nor to us. I can't imagine being 1000 miles from home and having the younger one having a breakdown at Disney. The older one had a breakdown ONCE in three trips (about 4 nights each time) and that was OUR fault for allowing her to eat fruit for breakfast, mac and cheese for lunch, and pizza for dinner (so basically all carbs) and it triggered a migraine in her. Needless to say, we learned to make sure she ate a lot of proteins in her diet the next few days and it was fine, haha.
We have promised to take the younger one in a few years if she can adjust her behavior, but, right now with the way she behaves, it doesn't look promising. Please don't think that I don't love the younger one just as much; as that is NOT the case. We try to take the younger one by herself without the older one to do stuff around here, but, just not on a trip to Disney.
I guess I just wonder what others would do? The mother and I already promised the older one trips this year for good grades/behavior, ect. Now we're at a loss. I feel like we're punishing the older one for the behavior of her sister if we don't take her. Ugh.