Wendy31
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- Mar 5, 2005
There are only 4 boys allowed to be in the room so the boy least liked by the group was the boy who was picked to not be in the room. There was no choice but to pick someone to be excluded.
I don't have a problem leaving 1 girl, or boy out if the birthday child and their close friends don't get along. And yes, my child has been excluded from birthday parties when most of his friends have been invited. It happens, and we as parents need to teach our children that they aren't always going to be included. That is just as much an important lesson as raising them not to be bullies.
Did the other boy still go on the trip & were there other boys in his room - just not the 4 that are originally in his group? Or was the boy in a room by himself?
If he was in a room w/ other boys, I sort of understand. Only 4 boys to a room - that's just the way it is. But, if he ended up not going or in a room by himself, that's sad. Do you think the mother of the boy that didn't fit in the room had to say to her son, "Well, honey, you're the least liked, so that's why there's no room for you in your friends' room"? I mean, how do you explain that? "Tough luck, kid. Maybe you'll move up the friend chain & be the 4th most liked next year."
Of course not everyone is going to be included w/ everything. And that's fine. That's life. I understand that, & we're teaching our kids that as well.
But how hurtful it must be to a child to realize he/she was the only one NOT invited to a party or something similar.
I think I must be too tenderhearted because I can't imagine leaving one child out. I wouldn't want it to happen to my children, & I'm sad to think about it happening to another child.
(If the one child is mean or a bully, that's different! Our actions & how we treat others have consequences.)
I think, just because life can be cruel, it doesn't mean we harden our hearts & stop being kind & thinking of others & their feelings.