Allison
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Me too.I drank far more in high school than I did in college. My mother unaware of it all (although I'm sure she thought it was a possibility) and you seem aware enough that your son does drink.
Me too.I drank far more in high school than I did in college. My mother unaware of it all (although I'm sure she thought it was a possibility) and you seem aware enough that your son does drink.
This is my kid, too, when he remembers he has a mom, ha! He is way too busy most times to stop and talk, but when he does, the stories rush out. I know all about the parties and who is hooking up with who and who is fighting with who. All by his own mouth, not my asking.Not the OP, but I have two daughters in college and I know so much more about their lives than my Mom every knew about mine. I was talking about this with a friend from HS and she said the same thing about her kids … I don’t know if it’s just girls or what, but they are very open about so many things with their friends and parents. Things I would have NEVER shared. And I really don’t know their college friends in person, but I feel like I know quite a bit about them based on stories I’ve heard and pictures they’ve shared.
It’s not just personal things either … it can be random things about their professors, classes, what was served in the dining hall, etc. I think some of it may be the ease of communication. They can text, send pictures or call anytime and it’s not a big deal. When I was in college, a phone call home was a planned out event that required me to enter a 22 digit calling card number and a picture required a weeks worth of time and two trips to the drugstore - one to drop off the film and another to pick up the pictures.
Thank you....only us Moms of boys can relate girls are a different scenario....much more responsible and aware, less impulsive, less reckless etc. IMO boys need a little more hand holding at 19. It's a fact. I am right there with ya! Good luck to you too! My son told me some of his college friends drove over the mexican border from AZ. I was like OMG!!!!! NO WAY!This is my kid, too, when he remembers he has a mom, ha! He is way too busy most times to stop and talk, but when he does, the stories rush out. I know all about the parties and who is hooking up with who and who is fighting with who. All by his own mouth, not my asking.
Op - i feel for you. Same spot, here. 18 year old is at a tournament in a far, far away state this weekend and then he is flying, solo, to meet up with girlfriend in Florida for the week. He has flown a lot...with us. He is anxious by nature (Hi, I'm the problem, it's me), and his anxiety about "getting the airport part right" has me anxious. I was THISCLOSE to flying to where he is so I could be at the airport for him (and squeeze in some of his tournament), but the last minute cost made me pause, plus...he needs to learn this. He will be in a major city, going to a major city. If there are delays and cancelations, there will be ways to get from A to B. But, watching from here is nerve-wracking. I miss my little boy who needed me.
So, next week when both our boys have conquered, and learned some more independence from their situations, we can both breathe a little easier!
So that is a major generalization there. Girls can be just as reckless and impulsive. Especially if there is something else in the mix like ADHD. With each response, I think more and more that you really need to step back. What is wrong with friends driving over the Mexican border from Arizona. It might not be the safest right now but it also is probably not the end of the world. He is 19 away at college and is an adult and these experiences right now are very important life experiences. My concern is he may stop telling you anything if you keep pushing on these things.Thank you....only us Moms of boys can relate girls are a different scenario....much more responsible and aware, less impulsive, less reckless etc. IMO boys need a little more hand holding at 19. It's a fact. I am right there with ya! Good luck to you too! My son told me some of his college friends drove over the mexican border from AZ. I was like OMG!!!!! NO WAY!
I think you're losing the thread here. Might want to stop while you're getting behindThank you....only us Moms of boys can relate girls are a different scenario....much more responsible and aware, less impulsive, less reckless etc. IMO boys need a little more hand holding at 19. It's a fact. I am right there with ya! Good luck to you too! My son told me some of his college friends drove over the mexican border from AZ. I was like OMG!!!!! NO WAY!
It’s definitely the ease of communication. If you text your kid and they dont text back you get worried. I went weeks without communicating with my parents when I was in college.Not the OP, but I have two daughters in college and I know so much more about their lives than my Mom every knew about mine. I was talking about this with a friend from HS and she said the same thing about her kids … I don’t know if it’s just girls or what, but they are very open about so many things with their friends and parents. Things I would have NEVER shared. And I really don’t know their college friends in person, but I feel like I know quite a bit about them based on stories I’ve heard and pictures they’ve shared.
It’s not just personal things either … it can be random things about their professors, classes, what was served in the dining hall, etc. I think some of it may be the ease of communication. They can text, send pictures or call anytime and it’s not a big deal. When I was in college, a phone call home was a planned out event that required me to enter a 22 digit calling card number and a picture required a weeks worth of time and two trips to the drugstore - one to drop off the film and another to pick up the pictures.
The Mexican border towns aren’t safe. Weren’t some kids just killed and held hostage last week.So that is a major generalization there. Girls can be just as reckless and impulsive. Especially if there is something else in the mix like ADHD. With each response, I think more and more that you really need to step back. What is wrong with friends driving over the Mexican border from Arizona. It might not be the safest right now but it also is probably not the end of the world. He is 19 away at college and is an adult and these experiences right now are very important life experiences. My concern is he may stop telling you anything if you keep pushing on these things.
They went to a Do Not Travel state (the highest level).The Mexican border towns aren’t safe. Weren’t some kids just killed and held hostage last week.
You can’t stop your adult children from driving over the border, but it wouldnt be something I’d recommend. There are places that you have to be pretty stupid to visit.
I understand that completely and I also wouldn't recommend it.The Mexican border towns aren’t safe. Weren’t some kids just killed and held hostage last week.
You can’t stop your adult children from driving over the border, but it wouldnt be something I’d recommend. There are places that you have to be pretty stupid to visit.
The Mexican border towns aren’t safe. Weren’t some kids just killed and held hostage last week.
You can’t stop your adult children from driving over the border, but it wouldnt be something I’d recommend. There are places that you have to be pretty stupid to visit.
Two of the boys went to high school with him so I asked my friends daughter about these boys and she said they like to party a lot. My son never hung out with them in HS so I never knew them.
Not the OP, but I have two daughters in college and I know so much more about their lives than my Mom every knew about mine. I was talking about this with a friend from HS and she said the same thing about her kids … I don’t know if it’s just girls or what, but they are very open about so many things with their friends and parents. Things I would have NEVER shared. And I really don’t know their college friends in person, but I feel like I know quite a bit about them based on stories I’ve heard and pictures they’ve shared.
It’s not just personal things either … it can be random things about their professors, classes, what was served in the dining hall, etc. I think some of it may be the ease of communication. They can text, send pictures or call anytime and it’s not a big deal. When I was in college, a phone call home was a planned out event that required me to enter a 22 digit calling card number and a picture required a weeks worth of time and two trips to the drugstore - one to drop off the film and another to pick up the pictures.
I can't see why you'd want to vacation in any of those places. It may be safe for you or I, but kids that age are stupid. They can get themselves into trouble especially when alcohols involved. The Sonora state is listed as a level 3 due to crime and kidnappings.There is a big difference in Mexican border towns. That one where the killings/kidnapping happened recently is a place so notorious for violence that even Mexican citizens avoid it.
Driving over the border from San Diego to Tijuana is fairly safe. As is Mexicali, Nogales, and most of Sonora state.
I spent every Summer in Baja as a kid. My parents had a house there and I've seen some things. It's much more dangerous now. If you know what your doing and how to stay out of trouble it's fine, but kids are stupid. It's way safer to go be stupid in Florida.I understand that completely and I also wouldn't recommend it.