cabanafrau
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- May 10, 2006
OP's signature suggests her son is one year old. Did the league legitimately let an underage child be signed up?
I actually let the coach handle it for the most part and stay out of the way, but my son requires more direct intervention on occasion. I talk with my son after the practices, but there are a few times where he needs to be corrected on the spot or he won't understand what he did wrong. I most certainly won't be correcting him during games.
I have talked to the coach and he will be handling it during the game. I am only intervening right now during practice, and I only do that as a last resort when his behavior can get him hurt. The coach is planning on putting him in the outfield for games to help keep him from getting hit with the ball.
Yelling at your kid to let them know what they need to do & where they need to be is a part of sports. Those that want to leave everything to the coach have probably been coaches in youth league or haven't played sports beyond youth league themselves.
This is an excellent point. I would never go to my kids classroom and tell them to listen or pay attention. Let his coach handle it. Don’t be that. Mom.
Actually, we have had to do this with him at the school's behest.
I’m always amazed at the responses when people ask parenting questions. It gives such good insight into why kids are the way they are these days.
OP, it’s your kid. If you want to yell things at him from the sidelines, go right ahead. I’m assuming you yelled something to the effect of “pay attention” and not something “I can’t believe what a stupid loser jerk you are! Can you please pay attention!”.
I can recall my own sports days. My parents didn’t sit quietly on the sidelines while I was playing. They yelled things. Sometimes they yelled “good job!”. Sometimes they yelled “good try”. Sometimes they yelled “pay attention”. Amazingly enough, I grew up to be a productive member of society even without continuous constant positive reinforcement for everything I did including the screw-ups.
As far as what to do about the other parent and their commentary? I’d have probably either shot her “the look”, or said “well the good news is there’s plenty of field space for you to move where you can’t hear me” or, as a PP said, given her the syrupy sarcastic “well bless your heart”.
Not yell, but deal with his behavior issues.Am I understanding this right- the school had you go in to his classroom during a school day to yell at him?
What should I have done or do in the future with regards to this mom? And please don't say to not yell at my kids, my children all know I love them and that if I am break out the stern voice, it is time to act better.
Not yell, but deal with his behavior issues.
So I am looking for your thoughts on an issue I had with a mom at my son's t-ball practice tonight.
My son loses focus easily and was goofing off with an orange cone while in the outfield. I sternly hollared at him to stop playing with the cone at one point. A few minutes later, I yelled at him again to pay attention. (My son is used to my stern voice and knows that mommy means business when he hears it and I typically only use it to get his attention.) After that, another player's mom snidely told me it was annoying her and she doesn't want her son to hear me yelling at my own kid. (One of her non-playing kids (18 months old) was wondering the playing field while the practice was going on and she just walked behind him.)
At that point, I just shook my head and walked off without saying a word to her. Had I responded to her, it would have not been pleasant, nor fit for small ears.
What should I have done or do in the future with regards to this mom? And please don't say to not yell at my kids, my children all know I love them and that if I am break out the stern voice, it is time to act better.
I won't tell you not to yell at your kids, but I will tell you that most people do not want to hear it.
My oldest was in gymnastics for years. When he was younger, I used to holler to him to pay attention quite a bit. Then one day I realized that other kids goofed off and no one yelled at them. I tried to step out of myself and see what it seemed like from a different prospective, and I didn't like what I saw. After that, I talked to him after class if I felt it was necessary.
How to deal with the mom? I guess if she said something again, I'd apologize and say you're parenting the way you feel is appropriate (but really, I'd stop yelling).
I would say that's an "each to their own" situation. No disrespect meant whatsoever, but I'm honestly not concerned whether another parent wants to hear if I yell something to my kid in practice. Nor am I concerned if other kids are goofing off...that's between them and their parents. Yes, there are clearly lines to be drawn. Nobody wants a parent who yells non-stop all during practice, or gets downright mean. At the same time, I am fully in support of a parent who yells something to their kid in practice a time or two. If my kid is staring off into space, I would absolutely do what OP did. If someone else doesn't like it, sorry.