sam_gordon
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Why do I think it's ironic that this thread and https://www.disboards.com/threads/h...eir-own-business.3788504/page-2#post-61476854 are both on the front page at the same time?
I can totally understand the whole, 'Only order something you know you'll like' mentality. While I'm not nearly as picky as some of the examples listed here, I do tend to be fairly limited in my eating habits.
Here's the thing: every few weeks or so I'll go out to eat with friends or my husband, and for the past few months I've tried to order something outside of my comfort zone and get something new. And you know what? I've always HATED what I ordered. Unappetizing, not what I expected, and in the end, I wind up trying to politely pick at my plate without making it obvious how much I dislike it. I still have to pay the check, which DOES feel like a waste of money since it's not like I want to bring any of it home to eat later, and not only that, I'm still hungry at the end of the meal!
That being said, I do understand the frustration of being with someone (adult or child) who refuses to try even the most basic of "weird" foods (absolutely zero veggies, not even carrots, zero fruit, that whole...."taco" situation that doesn't include any lettuce). I try my best to ignore it since it's none of my business and I don't know the whole story behind why they're eating that way, but I wouldn't say it doesn't bother me when the only reason appears to be they don't want to stop eating like a toddler.
Why do I think it's ironic that this thread and https://www.disboards.com/threads/h...eir-own-business.3788504/page-2#post-61476854 are both on the front page at the same time?
Touche!
As soon as I saw this thread, I thought "here we go with another thread bashing picky eaters."
WHY do people care so much what other people eat? Leave. People. Alone. Food issues are rarely a choice.
With my friend the only reason I care is because she’s all “holier than thou” about some of it. She is doing intermittent fasting, and bulletproof coffee and her eating hours are 11A-7Pm.
Like many other people who justify their eating habits (paleo, vegan, low fat, hi-protein, whatever) by putting others down, that’s what this picky eater did to me.
No food before 11 AM except buttered coffee, an entire container of nuts at noon, three beers, at least one Dole Whip, another ice cream, turkey dinner, etc at GG- and preached to me about how I should not drink a beer after 7 PM because I had a piece of cheese to start my day at 10:30 AM and that is “not good for you to eat more than in an 8 hour window and beer is NOT fasting!”, She would also not have food that was “mixed together” so only meat or chicken, potatoes and vegetable, all separate like when she was a child (and no seasoning).
The next night, Monday night at DAH from 8-11 PM, this “diet advisor” consumed at least 9 Mickey bars, 1 popsicle thing, and 2 ice cream sandwiches. And some of my popcorn.
That’s why I mentioned how picky she was- not only picky but militant about certain things that are considered odd and preachy about me drinking a beer after her “eating window”.
Normally I don’t care what people eat at all and my family is a group of the most non-picky and adventurous people you’d meet- but this struck me as something to mention.
I think in her case, it’s about feeling in control and her comfort zone makes her feel in control. I think some people have other reasons, but for her it took me aback,
Or you could just skip the thread instead of being so judgey.
Are you calling ME judgey?
Why? I hate this whole just keep scrolling nonsense. People have different opinions and can say them on here. Don’t tell people to keep scrolling because their opinion makes you uncomfortableIf this topic bothers you so much just scroll past.
How does it really affect you though? You're free to eat whatever you want, regardless of what your companions do or don't eat. If dinner with certain friends or family members really bugged me that much (which it simply never would, TBH), I'd just find other times to be together with them - no "nice restaurant" required.I wouldn’t be going with her to a nice restaurant. And when the time came that she asked why, I’d tell her.
Yes, adults food choices are their business..until they impact MY enjoyment of a meal in a nice restaurant. Then they become my business too.
Would you mind mentioning what your own experience was being raised by her? Were those foods the only things you were ever served? What was your Dad's take on it - was he content with the limited menu or did he prepare his own meals?This is my mom! She will only eat pancakes, mac&cheese, mashed potatoes, or a plain hamburger. I understand the idea of not judging what someone else eats, but the unfortunate reality is that those choices DO become a burden for other people. There are literally 3 restaurants that she will eat at - Cracker Barrel, Bob Evans, or Perkins. All of which have very mediocre (at best) food. When we go to visit for a week, it is always such a struggle to figure out dinner. Because we're not going to rotate between those 3 for a whole week! We often either end up going out to eat without her (which she makes us feel guilty about) or just get some take out to bring back to their house, so that she can microwave herself some pancakes to eat. But even then she complains that our food smells too strong. So we definitely don't dare try to cook anything substantial there. She claims that she is "allergic" to absolutely everything else, but I find that hard to believe. Unfortunately, she was raised on nothing but hamburgers (her parents owned a hamburger stand) and I strongly suspect that she just never was encouraged to eat anything else and develop a taste for it.
We have gone out of our way to make sure that our kids are well-rounded eaters. And I think they do pretty well. DS is a little more finicky than DD, but he still has a pretty impressive appreciation for good food. I am a vegetarian myself (who doesn't like mushrooms!) but I am always determined to find something that will work, wherever we end up eating. Because I refuse to limit the rest of my family to 3 restaurants, lol!
How does it really affect you though? You're free to eat whatever you want, regardless of what your companions do or don't eat. If dinner with certain friends or family members really bugged me that much (which it simply never would, TBH), I'd just find other times to be together with them - no "nice restaurant" required.
Would you mind mentioning what your own experience was being raised by her? Were those foods the only things you were ever served? What was your Dad's take on it - was he content with the limited menu or did he prepare his own meals?
Actually, the issues sound like a lot more than just conflicting food habits. Did you not know this person well before you traveled together or did you plan it genuinely expecting anything other than what you've described?I’m not who you were asking, but I can answer the first question for me. In my case, I was starving (she ate junk all day) by 6 PM and was ready to go for dinner. I was checking for ADRs while waiting for ROL. (I’m not a snacker, and won’t eat junk food.)
She nixed every single choice at DS (where we could easily Uber) or AK (where we were) and suggested salad or peanut butter and jelly.
I told her she could get salad at any restaurant, including an Italian place, and they all had ADRs.
This was our conversation from there:
Her: Nope. Not going to try ANY of them, because “what could I eat?”.
Me: Um, you had 9 Mickey bars last night and everything that wasn’t nailed down today in AK, and you won’t go to ANY restaurant at all?
Her: No. There is NOTHING I can eat there.
Me: They have plain salads at all of them, with no dressing. I promise.
Her: No. I can’t! There is NOTHING I can eat there.
Me: But you’ve eaten all day long. Maybe you’re not hungry, so a light side salad will do. But I haven’t eaten, and need a meal. I need real food.
Her: NOOOO. It’s bad if you eat after 7 PM. And I”m tired!
Me: I’ll take you back to the room. Then, I’ll go without you- you can go to the room and eat the peanut butter and jelly you want. I’m starving.
Her: NO, you can’t leave me!!! Please don’t leave me. It’s not my fault that I can’t eat anything at restaurants.
It gets really old for the travel partner.
It limits *where* you can eat and that limits everyone but the person who has only a handful of things they will eat. Nice places don’t typically have chicken nuggets and Mac & Cheese on the menu.How does it really affect you though? You're free to eat whatever you want, regardless of what your companions do or don't eat. If dinner with certain friends or family members really bugged me that much (which it simply never would, TBH), I'd just find other times to be together with them - no "nice restaurant" required.
True, but how often do you have to eat out with such a person? Unless it's your spouse or one of your kids, it really doesn't seem like such a daunting issue as to cause upset.It limits *where* you can eat and that limits everyone but the person who has only a handful of things they will eat. Nice places don’t typically have chicken nuggets and Mac & Cheese on the menu.
Actually, the issues sound like a lot more than just conflicting food habits. Did you not know this person well before you traveled together or did you plan it genuinely expecting anything other than what you've described?
True, but how often do you have to eat out with such a person? Unless it's your spouse or one of your kids, it really doesn't seem like such a daunting issue as to cause upset.
Wow. I hope u no longer travel with her.I’m not who you were asking, but I can answer the first question for me. In my case, I was starving (she ate junk all day) by 6 PM and was ready to go for dinner. I was checking for ADRs while waiting for ROL. (I’m not a snacker, and won’t eat junk food.)
She nixed every single choice at DS (where we could easily Uber) or AK (where we were) and suggested salad or peanut butter and jelly.
I told her she could get salad at any restaurant, including an Italian place, and they all had ADRs.
This was our conversation from there:
Her: Nope. Not going to try ANY of them, because “what could I eat?”.
Me: Um, you had 9 Mickey bars last night and everything that wasn’t nailed down today in AK, and you won’t go to ANY restaurant at all?
Her: No. There is NOTHING I can eat there.
Me: They have plain salads at all of them, with no dressing. I promise.
Her: No. I can’t! There is NOTHING I can eat there.
Me: But you’ve eaten all day long. Maybe you’re not hungry, so a light side salad will do. But I haven’t eaten, and need a meal. I need real food.
Her: NOOOO. It’s bad if you eat after 7 PM. And I”m tired!
Me: I’ll take you back to the room. Then, I’ll go without you- you can go to the room and eat the peanut butter and jelly you want. I’m starving.
Her: NO, you can’t leave me!!! Please don’t leave me. It’s not my fault that I can’t eat anything at restaurants.
It gets really old for the travel partner.