Back to how did we meet in the good old days, those of us who were lucky enough to live someplace with a thriving LGBTx community had social organizations beyond the bars. I met DH at an employee group, we participated in the outdoors group (hiking, cycling, etc.), and found LGBTx fandom in the SF community.
But I was lucky that as a software engineer, I was able to find jobs in the progressive parts of the country.
But I was lucky that as a software engineer, I was able to find jobs in the progressive parts of the country.