Mommy2EmMoLu
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- Oct 18, 2007
So I really think that my frustration with Emma's soccer coach has hit an all time high. Yesterday's game was a horrible experience all around.
Emma's team lost , which honestly, was not at all because they didn't play hard. Emma's team is part of a county wide system. Each soccer club has it's own divisions-1, 2 and 3. Div. 1 are the girls who are great competitive players, Div. 2 the next level down and Div. 3 is more the girls who are playing for fun. When we first got team assignments Emma was Division 3. However, in the spring there are only a handful of clubs that do soccer. So there are only 2 divisions county wide. That means that all the girls on Emma's team are Division 3 material playing against girls that are at a higher skill level. I fully believe that it is the club's responsibility to have mixed up the Division 2 and 3 girls so that the overall teams would be better matched. They didn't and we didn't find out we were Division 2 until 2 weeks after practices started. I think we have a long road ahead of us. What really infuriates me is that I think that the girls are at an age where confidence in any and all aspect of their lives is very important. If they are continually at a disadvantage it will not do them well in their confidence levels.
Then there is the whole coach issue- The girls have 2 jerseys, white and blue. In the clinic seasons the teams had reversible shirts, blue and yellow. Blue was home and yellow was away. We were not at our home field so Emma left here in her white shirt. Well we guessed wrong! When we got to the field and realized we were wrong, Eric went to the coach and let her know. Her snarky response was "that we were to have brought both shirts. Eric was at practice on Wednesday night and heard no mention of this. It was not in her email that she sent out! She lacks communication skills to say the least. Eric ended up taking off his shirt and giving it to Emma to play otherwise she would have sat on the side the entire game.
Then at the end of the game as snack was being passed out she very clearly and loudly was speaking to another mom about how it was very rude of me to assign everyone a date and so on and so forth. I sent her an email after the confusion last week and apologized. I mentioned to her that the way I handled snack was the way it had been handled on Emma's teams in the past. I can't see why it was needed for her to bring it up at the game. What more does she want from me?
I want to email her but at the same time I am feardul that if I send her something that it will make it a rough season for Emma. I told her in my last email that I would not be team mom but she seemed to ignore that fact as she sent out one with her snack list and to contact me if anyone was interested in filling the last 2 available dates.
So should I just let it go? Next year we decided we are switching to a different soccer club, there is just too much drama here!
Emma's team lost , which honestly, was not at all because they didn't play hard. Emma's team is part of a county wide system. Each soccer club has it's own divisions-1, 2 and 3. Div. 1 are the girls who are great competitive players, Div. 2 the next level down and Div. 3 is more the girls who are playing for fun. When we first got team assignments Emma was Division 3. However, in the spring there are only a handful of clubs that do soccer. So there are only 2 divisions county wide. That means that all the girls on Emma's team are Division 3 material playing against girls that are at a higher skill level. I fully believe that it is the club's responsibility to have mixed up the Division 2 and 3 girls so that the overall teams would be better matched. They didn't and we didn't find out we were Division 2 until 2 weeks after practices started. I think we have a long road ahead of us. What really infuriates me is that I think that the girls are at an age where confidence in any and all aspect of their lives is very important. If they are continually at a disadvantage it will not do them well in their confidence levels.
Then there is the whole coach issue- The girls have 2 jerseys, white and blue. In the clinic seasons the teams had reversible shirts, blue and yellow. Blue was home and yellow was away. We were not at our home field so Emma left here in her white shirt. Well we guessed wrong! When we got to the field and realized we were wrong, Eric went to the coach and let her know. Her snarky response was "that we were to have brought both shirts. Eric was at practice on Wednesday night and heard no mention of this. It was not in her email that she sent out! She lacks communication skills to say the least. Eric ended up taking off his shirt and giving it to Emma to play otherwise she would have sat on the side the entire game.
Then at the end of the game as snack was being passed out she very clearly and loudly was speaking to another mom about how it was very rude of me to assign everyone a date and so on and so forth. I sent her an email after the confusion last week and apologized. I mentioned to her that the way I handled snack was the way it had been handled on Emma's teams in the past. I can't see why it was needed for her to bring it up at the game. What more does she want from me?
I want to email her but at the same time I am feardul that if I send her something that it will make it a rough season for Emma. I told her in my last email that I would not be team mom but she seemed to ignore that fact as she sent out one with her snack list and to contact me if anyone was interested in filling the last 2 available dates. So should I just let it go? Next year we decided we are switching to a different soccer club, there is just too much drama here!
Her coach sounds like a witch. How many more games does she have? If it continues to be a negative experience I would seriously consider letting her withdraw before the season is finished. Life is too short. It really does sound like the teams are structured in a way that sets the "less skilled" teams up for failure.
