Is it okay to put family first? (Response to royal family stuff)

[Searc]

Telling your father I only want to do what I want, I want to be financially independent but still keeping getting 2.3 million and wanting the tax payer to pay the nearly 1 million a year for your security. How is Meghan going to manage without spending 1 million in clothes like she did last year?

I admit I am hopeless with numbers and converting to pounds, but I do know $124,000 is no where near 1 million pounds.

 

[kaytieeldr]

No. I would not expect him to return previous years' compensation amounts - I'm not sure where you would be getting that from my posts.

If he wants to step down/away, he should rightfully forgo that allowance going forward.

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but I think it would be best to decline money previously given to him in compensation for his work in support of the Queen

You can't decline something previously received.

 

[Frwinkley]

I don't know much about the Royals and the inner workings of their family. It saddens me that he and William are estranged; they've been through a lot. Having said that however, I really admire the decision that Harry made to put his own immediate family first. My so wise father always told his own kids the following: nothing matters except what is inside the walls of your own home--not your parents, in-laws, siblings, extended family members, etc. Your first priority is to the people who live inside your own home. I share this with many of my much younger co-workers; it helps to know your priorities when family circumstances becomes difficult.

 

[scrump]

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You can't decline something previously received.

LOL omg this is what happens when you post at work!

Got it, my error. I don't expect him to return past funds, as clarified in a separate post, just going forward and only if he chooses to not be a working royal.

 

[sasywtch]

So I'm guessing your opinion is the same about Kate and William spending Christmas with her family?

That was years ago, Philip was not in Ill health. I knew that would come up. Philip was 93 and in good health, now he is 99 and in hospital Of they had skipped this Christmas, then yes family first should include your elders that you love that are 99 and probably won't be here next year

 

[Searc]

That was years ago, Philip was not in Ill health. I knew that would come up. Philip was 93 and in good health, now he is 99 and in hospital Of they had skipped this Christmas, then yes family first should include your elders that you love that are 99 and probably won't be here next year

Psst, they spent Christmas with her family in 2016, but your answer is exactly what I expected.

 

[sasywtch]

I never get when people pull out the last Christmas argument. How many "last Christmases" with a family member are expected to be command performances? That's not an argument I buy into at all. My dad is on about his 7th "last Christmas" if we were to admit trying to predict his death timeline and if I'd had command performances at each of them, I could have missed several other family members "last Christmases" for real. (each of whom was MANY years younger than him.) Taking turns visiting family is reality even when part of your family is aging royalty. So thankful my family understands that visits still count if they aren't on a holiday!

Oh please, the guy is 99and was in the hospital. What a terrible disposition to have your child see his 99 year old great grandfather for a holiday that YOU continually say you adore the child may not know but that great grandfather will I stick by my opinion

 

[sasywtch]

Psst, they spent Christmas with her family in 2016, but your answer is exactly what I expected.

Oh my goodness. Notice I didn't mention Charles? Many more Christmas to come with him. #1. 6 yrs ago Philip was 93 and good health #2 they did not leave for 6 weeks (babies change a lot in that time) #3 I never heard William profess his admiration for Philip as much as I heard Harry.

I'm pretty sure you don't care about this as much as me saying I felt Meghan might be one of those women who slowly salient their husbands from their families. I have zero proof and as I said, just a gut feeling

I could care less if they "quit" however, that should come with giving up the title, revoking the sussexroyal patent and all monies including Frogmore and the 95%

 

[Searc]

Oh my goodness. Notice I didn't mention Charles? Many more Christmas to come with him. #1. 6 yrs ago Philip was 93 and good health #2 they did not leave for 6 weeks (babies change a lot in that time) #3 I never heard William profess his admiration for Philip as much as I heard Harry.

I'm pretty sure you don't care about this as much as me saying I felt Meghan might be one of those women who slowly salient their husbands from their families. I have zero proof and as I said, just a gut feeling

I could care less if they "quit" however, that should come with giving up the title, revoking the sussexroyal patent and all monies including Frogmore and the 95%

Again, it was perfectly fine for Catherine and Will to do it multiple times, but Megan should never expect to spend Christmas with *her* mother. Got it.

 

[SaintsManiac]

I wouldn’t want to spend Christmas with Phillip, either.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

Making Christmas plans around who’s expected to die next is such a ridiculous notion. Every Christmas could be anyone’s last. Diana’s last Christmas was at 36, after all. I hope she got to spend it how she wanted and with people she cared about.

 

[Welsh_Dragon]

I suggest that the British public do not hate the Duchess of Sussex and personally, I have never read a racist comment about her. (Viscountess Weymouth is adored by the British public). Generally we are a very forgiving nation and we accept that members of the Royal family make mistakes. For example, consider how the British public reacted to Prince Philip’s occasional gaffs and Diana, Princess of Wales certainly balanced her good works with some very questionable behaviour. We are disappointed in Prince Harry. We feel let down, but he still has a lifetime to ‘make good’, to redeem himself and demonstrate his loyalty to Queen and country.
How can the British people not be protective of a Queen who has served us so very well for so long? It is only by considering this question that one can understand our disappointment of Prince Harry’s conduct.

 

[mousefan73]

Again, it was perfectly fine for Catherine and Will to do it multiple times, but Megan should never expect to spend Christmas with *her* mother. Got it.

the issue of Meghan spending christmas with her mother was never in the press put in a negative light as far as I know.. Where they spent Christmas was never an issue, though when Prince Phillip was in the hospital it was commented if Harry would make a show.. the issue was their statement back in the Fall about them "needing to have an extended break" which happened to fall over the holidays.. the general concensus was " a break from what?!" I am in Europe and never read a negative piece about Meghans mother. She has, IMO; handled this all well. Now her father seems to be a basket case.

How they spent private family time has been critiezed in the press rightfully so. . One flys commercial to the Caribbean and the other fly private gifted by celebrities within Europe. Excuse was "security" which is BS The Cambridges are often seen flying low-cost carriers to official events. Privatel they have even taken the train back to London from Armer house. Pictures taken of them at the train station, lugging their own bags. One doesnt have a jet-setting celebrity baby shower in NYC and othe other does.. These are lifestyle choices the press critized and has NOTHING to to do skin color.

 

[Searc]

the issue of Meghan spending christmas with her mother was never in the press put in a negative light as far as I know.. Where they spent Christmas was never an issue, though when Prince Phillip was in the hospital it was commented if Harry would make a show.. the issue was their statement back in the Fall about them "needing to have an extended break" which happened to fall over the holidays.. the general concensus was " a break from what?!" I am in Europe and never read a negative piece about Meghans mother. She has, IMO; handled this all well. Now her father seems to be a basket case.

How they spent private family time has been critiezed in the press rightfully so. . One flys commercial to the Caribbean and the other fly private gifted by celebrities within Europe. Excuse was "security" which is BS The Cambridges are often seen flying low-cost carriers to official events. Privatel they have even taken the train back to London from Armer house. Pictures taken of them at the train station, lugging their own bags. One doesnt have a jet-setting celebrity baby shower in NYC and othe other does.. These are lifestyle choices the press critized and has NOTHING to to do skin color.

How they spend private family time, at their expense, is no one's business.

And a 'jet-setting baby shower'? Really? She is American, all of her friends are American, of course it is easier for one person to fly (again, on her dime) to the event vs everyone flying to where she is. When you're British and all your friends and family are Brits, having a baby shower where your friends and family live is perfectly logical.

What a garbage argument.

 

[Julie's Haircut]

I find it odd that they left Archie with friends in Canada.. Meghan flew back yesterday I believe. so is she stayingin Canada while Harry has to negiotate this mess?? all very odd.. unless who knows, maybe Archie had an ear infection/sick and couldnt fly back... and she is now bringing him back. maybe she is house hunting lol!

I love and trust my friends, but heck i wouldnt leave my babies with even my best friend at 8 monhts unless it was some emergemcy situation. Not to jet-set to europe back and forth.

I am curious how Canadians feel about them potentially adopting thesse two.

This is actually true. The Queen has "legal" custody of any children born in the Monarchy. She has never used this, but if she wanted to, she could take Archie away from them and have him live with her legally.

Smart move keeping Archie in Canada. Keep him there until Queenie agrees to your demands.

They have given a list of these royals they want to work with
The Queen
Prince of Wales
Duke of Cambridge
but not Duchess of Cambridge it really looks like all these rumours of her being jealous of Catherine where true.

Neither Harry nor Meghan has any desire for the monarchy to program her to become a brain-dead Stepford Wife zombie whose only talent is spewing out one welfare baby after another, like they did with Kate.

 

[BadPinkTink]

The next round begins. UK media are now reporting that Meghan has signed a voice over deal with Disney and the money earned will be donated to an African charity Elephants Without Borders, an organisation that helps to track and protect the animals from poaching.

The news reports are saying that she has already recorded the voice over.

 

[Boardwalk Jedi]

I suggest that the British public do not hate the Duchess of Sussex and personally, I have never read a racist comment about her. (Viscountess Weymouth is adored by the British public). Generally we are a very forgiving nation and we accept that members of the Royal family make mistakes. For example, consider how the British public reacted to Prince Philip’s occasional gaffs and Diana, Princess of Wales certainly balanced her good works with some very questionable behaviour. We are disappointed in Prince Harry. We feel let down, but he still has a lifetime to ‘make good’, to redeem himself and demonstrate his loyalty to Queen and country.
How can the British people not be protective of a Queen who has served us so very well for so long? It is only by considering this question that one can understand our disappointment of Prince Harry’s conduct.

We? I love that you think you own Meghan. If you never read a racist comment about Meghan, then you either don't read or are in denial. BTW, you don't have to state anything racist to act racist. If you think racism has nothing to do with it, then ask yourself this: Why was it fine for Kate to spend several Christmases with her family, flock to her mothers for a few weeks after her kid was born, and lovingly touch her baby bump while Meghan was berated for spending the holiday with her mother, having privacy while giving birth and recovering, and touching her baby bump???

And if you are so quick to criticize all this, why not look inward?

 

[Hikergirl]

The next round begins. UK media are now reporting that Meghan has signed a voice over deal with Disney and the money earned will be donated to an African charity Elephants Without Borders, an organisation that helps to track and protect the animals from poaching.

The news reports are saying that she has already recorded the voice over.

Is that looked at as a strike against Meghan?

 

[BadPinkTink]

Is that looked at as a strike against Meghan?

Most definitely
One does not do that sort of thing. People will not like that she has started the commercialization and "cashing in" on the Sussex name and position, BEFORE the announcement. It shows that they have planned this out for months and that will not be liked. It will be seen as two faced, that on one hand, she played the part of the proper princess while all this scheming was taking place in private.

 

[SaintsManiac]

Most definitely
One does not do that sort of thing. People will not like that she has started the commercialization and "cashing in" on the Sussex name and position, BEFORE the announcement. It shows that they have planned this out for months and that will not be liked. It will be seen as two faced, that on one hand, she played the part of the proper princess while all this scheming was taking place in private.

I don’t think she cares and she shouldn’t.