fractalpotato
Mouseketeer
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- Jun 11, 2017
Hi all,
I have an upcoming trip (see signature!) with my girlfriend coming up, and it's own first trip together! We are both Disney fans and have been a bunch separately, but now we're together (Seriously, one of the first questions we asked each other was favorite theme park, we both said Epcot and I nearly proposed to her on the spot!) and going on this trip has been so exciting for us. It's combined with my best friend's wedding at the end of the trip, so it's a bit of a long stay.
I am normally a spender, I'm lucky to have a job in the Manhattan financial area and make in theupper low-moderate 6 figures ($200k), so Disney never put much of a dent in me. Her job is in PR and pays in lower 5 figures. She 'commutes' to NYC from PA for her job, but really she spends most of her time in my apartment and tends to pick up all the groceries and household things. I cover all the going out expenses, plus I pay for the utilities and internet and such.
For our upcoming trip, it started as me inviting her to be my wedding date, and then grew in to a full trip from there. As such the original invite was with me covering airfare, the hotel stay for the wedding and wedding gift expenses, as well as my usual covering of food and beverage and such. Basically free for her, she insisted on contributing but I told her it wasn't needed. Once we decided to add Disney on we agreed she was getting her park tickets and some of the food. To that end she's been cashing in her credit card points for Disney gift cards. I got our car rental for free out of reward points, so that's not included, and we upgraded our seats on JetBlue to the extra space/priority boarding, which we split. All in all, I'm really excited for the trip and I'm appreciative that she chipped in as much as she did but she keeps wanting to chip in more. I've told her however not to worry about it, and I really enjoy treating her (and I do!), even so far as prepaying for a Dessert Party for the two of us as well!
Lately some of my friends and coworkers asked me about the trip and when I elaborated on the plans they expressed concern about the cost of the trip. They don't know what she makes, but they know roughly the scale of gap in our incomes and they started telling me I'm paying for too much. Now, I am one who says that I'd rather spend the money on myself and those around me than hoard it. All of my expenses are well handled, I have no debt other than one remaining student loan which is on track for an ahead of schedule repayment, I have several months emergency savings, so saving more starts to get a little overkill. I prefer to share the fun, but now I'm ever so slightly concerned that I'm going too far.
So how would you all handle it? Am I covering too much? Should I expect her to pay more? Should I expect her to pay the same and we should scale down the trip?
It's not that vexing a problem, really mostly a curiosity because I've spoken to her about it and she said she's really excited and not at all bothered by the amounts we pitched in, my friends are just nosy. Still, it's a curiosity and I'd like to see what everyone else thinks
Matt
EDIT: I clarified my income.
I have an upcoming trip (see signature!) with my girlfriend coming up, and it's own first trip together! We are both Disney fans and have been a bunch separately, but now we're together (Seriously, one of the first questions we asked each other was favorite theme park, we both said Epcot and I nearly proposed to her on the spot!) and going on this trip has been so exciting for us. It's combined with my best friend's wedding at the end of the trip, so it's a bit of a long stay.
I am normally a spender, I'm lucky to have a job in the Manhattan financial area and make in the
For our upcoming trip, it started as me inviting her to be my wedding date, and then grew in to a full trip from there. As such the original invite was with me covering airfare, the hotel stay for the wedding and wedding gift expenses, as well as my usual covering of food and beverage and such. Basically free for her, she insisted on contributing but I told her it wasn't needed. Once we decided to add Disney on we agreed she was getting her park tickets and some of the food. To that end she's been cashing in her credit card points for Disney gift cards. I got our car rental for free out of reward points, so that's not included, and we upgraded our seats on JetBlue to the extra space/priority boarding, which we split. All in all, I'm really excited for the trip and I'm appreciative that she chipped in as much as she did but she keeps wanting to chip in more. I've told her however not to worry about it, and I really enjoy treating her (and I do!), even so far as prepaying for a Dessert Party for the two of us as well!
Lately some of my friends and coworkers asked me about the trip and when I elaborated on the plans they expressed concern about the cost of the trip. They don't know what she makes, but they know roughly the scale of gap in our incomes and they started telling me I'm paying for too much. Now, I am one who says that I'd rather spend the money on myself and those around me than hoard it. All of my expenses are well handled, I have no debt other than one remaining student loan which is on track for an ahead of schedule repayment, I have several months emergency savings, so saving more starts to get a little overkill. I prefer to share the fun, but now I'm ever so slightly concerned that I'm going too far.
So how would you all handle it? Am I covering too much? Should I expect her to pay more? Should I expect her to pay the same and we should scale down the trip?
It's not that vexing a problem, really mostly a curiosity because I've spoken to her about it and she said she's really excited and not at all bothered by the amounts we pitched in, my friends are just nosy. Still, it's a curiosity and I'd like to see what everyone else thinks
Matt
EDIT: I clarified my income.
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